#5: Healing from Grief
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I hope you're doing well. I just wanted to let you know that I switched things up last week and decided to publish on Fridays instead! That's why you didn’t receive last week's edition on Saturday.
This week’s discovery:
The Importance of Forgiveness
How can you prepare yourself for death? Here’s Siddhartha Mukherjee’s advice to his patients that are near the end of their lives:
I mean, the advice I give people is think about forgiving someone. Think about being forgiven. And think about something that you'd like to do that you haven't done yet, because I can't stop time. No one can. But I can slow time and I can correct time. And by correct time, I mean, when people die and I see this every day, you know, it's part of my practice… I say to people, what's hankering you? And the answer is often that they haven't told someone that they love them. They haven't forgiven someone and they haven't been forgiven by someone, just three simple things. And I say, okay, yeah, there's a phone next to you. Pick up the phone and call someone that you haven't forgiven… Just say, I forgive you. Or pick up the phone and say to someone, I'm really sorry… I did something. Can you please forgive me? And pick up the phone and say to someone, I love you. And that's okay. There is a spiritual burden that lifted from you when you say those three things and you make yourself ready to die. It's already in yourself. You know, you can crash a plane, you can land a plane. I want people to land a plane.
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Fear-Setting: The Most Valuable Exercise I Do Every Month
What strategies can you use to effectively define your fears and avoid mistakes? In this TED video, Tim Ferriss explains how his exercise of "fear-setting" has been essential in achieving both personal and professional success. Through this exercise, Tim encourages people to face their fears head-on and to define their "nightmare" scenarios in order to realize the worst case is not that bad and that they can take steps to prepare and mitigate potential risks. He also emphasizes that inaction is the greatest risk of all and encourages readers to do something they fear every day.
Here are my favorite highlights:
Action may not always bring happiness, but there is no happiness without action.
There’s no difference between a pessimist who says, ‘Oh, it’s hopeless, so don’t bother doing anything,’ and an optimist who says, ‘Don’t bother doing anything, it’s going to turn out fine any way.’ Either way, nothing happens.
You have comfort. You don’t have luxury. And don’t tell me that money plays a part. The luxury I advocate has nothing to do with money. It cannot be bought. It is the reward of those who have no fear of discomfort.
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