When you choose to get married you are choosing to play a long game of ongoing personal leadership development and growth. (Read now on my newsletter.)
You get to choose a marriage by design or by default.
If you choose by design you will invest in yourself and your marriage.
If you choose by default you will drift off a cliff of boredom and mediocrity.
If you are still reading I would encourage you to choose one book today from this list and start reading and growing.
I want to share five books that have transformed my leadership as a husband.
Below are five books for any husband who wants to grow in marriage, life, and leadership.
- Wild at Heart by John Eldredge: I read this book in 2001 and I continue to reread it and learn new principles every year to keep developing. I have been honored to host John on different occasions on my podcast and return to a theme about playing and having fun is an essential ingredient in successful marriages.
- His Need Her Needs by William Harley: When Jessica and I got trained in Dynamic Marriage in 2008 this was and is the ongoing foundation of that marriage journey. Knowing each other's love busters and habits will foster awareness and curiosity.
- No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover: This is an essential read for people pleasing, self-sabotage, and not communicating clearly as a husband. I have passive-aggressive tendencies and this continues to be a good reminder with his practical suggestions on ways to break free.
- Failure of Nerve by Edwin Friedman: If you want to lead at the next level you need to read this book. We live in a quick-fix culture that expects everyone to cave into their belief system; ie cancel culture. This book will help you build emotional resiliency.
- Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch: This takes marriage work to a deeper level and moves to what great marriages do really well. Our culture sells quick sex that is filled with pseudo-passion. David says that the best sex will be when you know yourself, are deeply authentic, and will probably be in your cellulite years.
The choice is yours. Delete this email or order one book to grow to the next level.
My wife and I continue to grow by reading various leadership and marriage books. This past week my mentor mentioned one to me that we ordered and will begin this weekend together.
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National Sales Director at Enterprise Mobility
4 个月Love it. Thank you for the insight! I ordered all 5 books…Just don’t order “No More Mr. Nice Guy” in paperback on Amazon. They want $5k for the book ??
Author of DADVOTIONAL?? Releasing 11/29 - A Devotional for Devoted Dads (POWER) - Creating Households of Peace and Purpose - Author/DADVOTED?? - Sober Support - Refined Father Roadmap
4 个月Well crap, I have some homework! Read number 1 a long long time ago!
Regional Director @ Campus Outreach | Building Relationships, Raising Laborers, Simplifying Success
4 个月Wild at heart has caught a lot of flack over the years but it really helped me early on in adulthood!
Executive Leader | Builder | Governance | Talent | Learning
4 个月I've read 2 of these - looks like I've got more reading to do! Thanks for sharing Lantz!
Inside Sales Executive at Smiley Monroe, Inc.
4 个月I’ve read the first two. Read Eldredge starting with Sacred Romance. Heard him speak at a managers conference. Even got to meet him and chat a bit when he released Wild At Heart. Now, years later, still read Wild once per year as a refresher. I probably bought and gave away dozens of that book.