4th Edition - Welcome to 2023!

Welcome to the New Year.?

Are you ready for the guilt and frustration when you start to carry out all your new intentions and struggle to keep up with it all? I think if we all worked a little bit harder on having compassion for ourselves when we don’t succeed instead of the horrible self loathing - so many more of us would take on the challenge of ‘doing things better’ in 2023.?

If you - like me - love a fresh start, here are some tips to help you achieve what you want - without the self-sabotage.?

1.Understand WHY you are setting yourself the new challenge. And I mean deeply understand. What impact will it have if you achieve it? What impact will it have if you don’t? Journal your answer out and have this somewhere visible to you. Maybe as the backdrop on your phone. Or in the downstairs loo. Somewhere where you will be passively looking at it without judgment.?

2. What are the smaller steps towards your goal? For example, I know I’d like to go sugar free this year. But I also know that this will be one of the hardest things I have ever done. (I have eaten chocolate almost everyday since I was in my teens) So I have organised an accountability partner - and I am not about to go cold turkey. If I can be sugar free by the end of 2023 that will be a HUGE success. So what needs to happen each month for this to become a reality??

Here’s what I’m intending:

• Weaning myself completely off sugar in my hot drinks
• Not having chocolate as my go to in the cupboard during the week
• Replacing my chocolate with minimum 85% dark chocolate
• No longer having toast for breakfast

If I can manage this by the end of January - I am winning.?

Now it’s your turn. How can you break this down into more manageable chunks?

3. Don’t zero out. If your intention is to do yoga three times a week - just unrolling and sitting on your mat can count. This means you are telling your brain, that even though you feel like you don’t have the time or inclination - you will take 60 seconds to set your intention and then carry about your day. Not zeroing out is single handedly the most useful tool for consistency in a new habit.?

Right - now we’ve got that covered - grab a cuppa - we’ve a lot to catch up on.?

What I’m watching

Undercover: Sexual Harrassment - The Truth

Ellie Flynn goes undercover, exposing the harsh reality of sexual harassment against women and girls in Britain today, from 'dick pics' to being flashed, groped, spiked and raped. Having outed the male LinkedIn community last year and the post reaching nearly 1M views, my opinions on this are strong. Take a watch and see what you think.?

Married at First Sight - Australia Season 4

I got into this for ‘market research’ and was so quickly sucked in. Having never watched a series of this before - I lapped it up. BUT - the reason I LOVE this series so much is because of how it depicts the misogyny and downright disgusting behaviour of the group towards one woman who I have grown to love - Cheryl Maitland.

What I’m listening to

Letter to a Black Girl?

I’m on a path to learn more about black women in the UK - challenge bias and grow my circle. I notice that my entrepreneurial circle is very white - and this is the year to change this. What better way to start than hearing about some incredible black women in society and culture than through Gloria Onitiri’s podcast.?

What’s Coming up?

This January we are focussing on helping entrepreneurial female founders to SHOW UP. That is why The Collective of Extraordinary Women is currently free to join. Making the most of a Monday and a Friday check-in and out is how you can be supporting yourself to maintain consistency in your new year’s drive.?

Here’s the link to join - if you’re not already in there with us.?

There is also a special New Year offer to anyone on my mailing list for The Confident Content Course. Ideal for those of you who are looking to become more visible online this year - this course is a deep dive into everything you need to be doing to ensure you are showing up consistently - with clarity for your audience.?

Here’s your discounted link (￡120 including VAT down from ￡250 including VAT)

Prices will go back up to ￡250 after January unless you are a regular member of the Collective.?

Okay folks - that’s all from me. Let’s all support each other through our first month of 2023. Go easy on yourselves and take one manageable step towards your future at a time.

Lots of Love, Lucienne