4 Ways to Overcome The Fear That Holds Us Back
What really holds us back and keeps us where we are?
The number one thing that holds us back in business (and life) is invisible.
It’s fear.
We all get it, whenever we go for something that means we’ll have to step out of our ‘comfort zone’.
Our comfort zone is made up of the habitual patterns of thinking and doing that we’re used to, so we feel comfortable. But it’s not helping us move forward to get the results we say we want.
How do we move forward out of our comfort zone?
First, we need to understand the fear that’s holding us back.
There are 4 main fears (or barriers) that keep us from moving forward.
·?????? Fear of feeling fundamentally flawed
·?????? Fear of abandonment or disloyalty
·?????? Fear of the burden of success
·?????? Fear of outshining
We can allow these fears to control us and hold us back.
I’ve watched this happen countless times with people in business and have experienced it firsthand myself.
The first thing we have to do is recognise the fear; then we can do something about it.
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4 Ways to Overcome Fear
(1)? We can choose our thoughts
Recognise that our fear is just our unconscious mind trying to protect us. It wants to keep us safe from the 4 possibilities above. But we don’t have to agree with it.
Every time we consciously do something that takes us out of our comfort zone means that our comfort zone expands. We grow as an individual which means that our business can grow.
(2)? Choose to do something different every day
Our brains love us doing the same things, thinking the same thoughts every single day, whether or not they are positive or negative. It saves our brain energy: we just hop onto the neural pathways we’ve grooved into our brain through constant repetition.
But doing the same things over and over is not helping us to grow ourselves or our business.
Take the challenge and deliberately choose to think different thoughts and do something different every single day for a week. Once you get used to this, you’ll realise that it’s quite fun. Make it a game and get creative.
(3)? Keep focused on your big goal
Be sure that your big dream or goal is something exciting that you’d really really love to have or achieve. It’s got to be ultra-motivating to keep you pushing on!
Write it down, create a vision board, see it in your mind and focus on it every day.
Whenever you feel fear gnawing in your stomach when you go to do something new, think of it as excitement (the physiological effects of fear and excitement are very similar after all) and acknowledge that you are taking actions that are expanding your comfort zone.
(4)? “Why do these things keep happening to me?”
Business growth is never plain sailing. Challenges will always crop up.
We can choose to see the challenges as insurmountable and reasons why we shouldn’t be pushing forward. Or we can choose to see them as opportunities to learn and take different actions.
When we’re willing to see challenges as invitations to grow and expand our comfort zone, we move through our fear and will probably be deliciously amazed at what we find beyond the barrier. ??
I’d love to hear how you get on. Please do get in touch.
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9 个月Always enjoy your post's Ros. From an early age I learnt to face my fears head on as you tend to find things don't turn out as bad as you think they will.
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9 个月A really helpful post ros, thank you! There are always unexpected curve balls in business, some easier to deal with than others!!
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9 个月The the only emotion we’re born with is the fear of falling, everything else is what we’ve been taught. Thank you for helping to overcome fear in business.