4 Ways to Become Resilient

4 Ways to Become Resilience?

How do you become stronger through hard times?

In today's Newsletter, I'm going to give you FOUR ways to deal with setbacks in a different way.

Let’s face it, we all know someone resilient. A person we admire for their ability to take on challenges.

They dust themselves down and move forward with grace when things get tough.

When I think of resilient people, I think of elders in my family. The ones who lived through the war.

They’d tell tales of having no food and rationing.

“We had nothing! You had to make do and mend in our day,” they’d say.?

Compared to other generations, I believe the war generations were more resilient.?

But, what does this word mean?

And how can you start to become more resilient in your life?

Resilience is the “capacity to withstand or to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness”

It’s a skill. Something you learn with experience. You need the right tools and techniques to improve resilience.

We live in a stressful world. High inflation, work pressures, and increasing mental health problems.

I spend most of my week coaching people who are experiencing career burnout.?

They’re fatigued, exhausted by the day-to-day. They find themselves on the merry-go-round of life, unable to stop the world and take a break.?

A core part of my Beat Career Burnout coaching programme empowers my clients to become more resilient.?

I do this by teaching them four ways to improve this area of their life:

1. Stay in control

We all face difficulties. Life can be very stressful at times. Whether it’s your children testing your patience or a difficult boss.?

Starting to notice HOW you’re responding to situations is a great way to become more resilient.

One technique is to ask yourself questions when problems show up.

Try asking yourself:

‘How do I feel about this problem? What's going on here?’

This may sound tough, but taking a few breaths and walking away to gather your thoughts is the catalyst to a more resilient approach.?

Remember, YOU have the power to take action to resolve any situation.

Responding, instead of reacting, is a great first step.?

2. Regulate Emotion

Everyone has emotions, but it’s HOW you manage your emotions that sets you apart from others.?

It's important to stay in control of your emotions during times of stress. If you’re out of control, this creates relationship problems. Forcing your body into a state of ‘fight or flight’.

It’s exhausting for you and everyone else!

Become aware of the physical symptoms of your emotions.

For example, 'If I feel threatened by someone, do I tense up? Do I feel upset??

Just noticing how situations are affecting your emotions gives you more control.

Next up, make a conscious choice about HOW to respond.

'What emotions do I feel suit this situation? How will my emotional response affect the people involved here?'

Identifying triggers to your reactions is a great action to take.?

3. Problem Solve

Resilient people tend to share one thing in common: they look to find solutions to problems.

A great way to do this is to set GOALS. No matter how difficult the situation.?

Becoming responsible for achieving these goals is the next step. This will give you something to work towards, instead of feeling hopeless.?

Try to face forward and think of different ways to resolve this situation. Take time out to consider what you want. What would be the best-case scenario for my future here??

And if you can’t think of solutions: ask for help!

4. Self Compassion

Being kind to yourself during setbacks is critical. Practicing self-compassion is an amazing way to build your resilience.?

Too often we pin the blame on ourselves when things don't work out. And when a challenge arises, we’re always the person to blame!?

Remember, we all go through difficulties. Life isn't perfect. Stop being critical of yourself.?

Try saying positive affirmations to yourself, filled with kindness. Create 3 positive statements you can say to yourself daily.

And when tricky situations come up, you can repeat some kindness to yourself.?

Becoming your Number 1 supporter is a great way to become more resilient.

Give it a try!?

Moving forward with 1:1 Coaching

As you can see, building resilience can be achieved. It’s available to everyone.

Resilience is a skill that can be learned.?

And if you feel like you need more support to get your life and career back on track, I can help.?

You can schedule an introduction call with me HERE

Let’s talk about your situation and what coaching programme suits your needs.?

If you have any questions about how coaching works, send me a DM today.

Otherwise, have a great Saturday!

Tom?