4 Steps to Turn Failure into Growth

How can failure be good??Remember John Delorean?? He was the superstar General Motors executive who started the Delorean Motor Company.? When the company began to falter, he was arrested and charged with complicity in a drug deal that some speculated was an attempt to raise money to prop up the company.

All of this was big news in Detroit, where I was living at the time. One particularly insightful article in the Detroit News theorized that he had been supremely successful his whole life, and thus never learned to deal with failure. His development was stunted by a lack of failure in his life.? Faced with the pending failure of his auto company, he had nothing to lean upon and lost his moral compass.? A long string of successes had not developed his character.

Character

Perhaps.? There is one thing for certain, regardless of the individual circumstances for Mr. DeLorean.? If we chose to, we learn more from our failures than we do from our successes.? Within every failure, there is the seed of a lesson well learned, of a solid character trait emerging. It is our failures that contribute most intensely to our development.

To this day, I can recall with vivid detail the events of my most humiliating failure as a salesperson.? It was early in my career, about three decades ago, and I had made the mistake of speaking badly about the competition to a customer.? The customer was a personal friend of the competitive salesperson and was personally affronted by my comment. The dressing down that I received at the hands of that customer remains painfully with me today.? I don’t believe that I have ever made that mistake since.

Which is one of my points.? Our failures are often far more intensely painful than the corresponding highs we get when we succeed.? Since the pain is far more intense, the lessons stay with us.? Or, they should, if we recognize the part that our behavior played in the failure.

Recognizing: What We Can Learn From Our Failures

That’s a key part of learning from our failures:? recognizing the role that we played in bringing them about.? Of course, sometimes we are hapless and innocent victims of chance or someone else’s misbehavior.? But more often than not, we had a hand in the development of the sequence of events which resulted in a painful loss to us.

Remember Detective Sipowitz in the TV show “NYPD Blue?”? In one episode, at the scene of a murder, he cynically remarked that “There are no victims.”? In other words, the victim was in some way partially responsible for his own demise.? Of course that is not true for every event, but in a sober reflection of my life, which is the only thing I know well enough about which to make this kind of judgment, I find it to be true more often than not. Maybe, almost every time.

A Contributor?

In other words, in almost every career and personal failure in my life, I was, at least in part, a contributor to the chaos that... CLICK HERE TO READ THE FULL ARTICLE