4 Rules for Disagreeing Productively

Conflict can be uncomfortable, but we can't find the best ideas or reach the best solutions if we agree with each other all the time. As a manager, it’s your job to help team members learn how to disagree productively. Here are some rules for keeping debates professional and on topic:

• Remember you’re all on the same team. The goal of the conversation isn’t for one person to be proven right or to “win” the argument. The goal is to solve the problem at hand — together.
• Stick to facts. Make sure people are defending their ideas with clear, sound logic, not with rhetorical tactics or by being the loudest.
• Don’t make it personal. No name-calling, personal attacks, or questions like “How could you believe that?” Assume that everyone’s intentions are good.
• Be intellectually humble. Respect everyone’s viewpoints, and be open to changing your mind when necessary.

?Read the full article:?“How to Debate Ideas Productively at Work.”

Are you guilty of avoiding conflict? You’re far from the only one. Join Amy Gallo, HBR editor and author of “Getting Along: How to Work with Anyone (Even Difficult People)” Thursday, Sept. 22 at 10 AM ET for a discussion on understanding the difference between good and bad conflict —?and what you need to know about addressing it.

Learn more:

If Your Team Agrees on Everything, Working Together Is Pointless

How to Have a Good Debate in a Meeting

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