4 Limiting Beliefs That Are Holding You Back From Stepping Into Your Power

What is a limiting belief?

It is a belief you hold on to about yourself that limits you or restricts you in some way. We all have limiting beliefs that keep us from actualizing our power.

You know what?

There’s a whole lot of misinformation on?how to step into your power, which is why it’s easy to feel defeated when you’re?doing?everything “right” and still not?feeling any different.

Before I learned how to?harness my power towards positive change, I tried every guide, quick fix, and article I could find. I gave my power away to external forces. When I wasn't seeing fast results, I would dive into cheap dopamine fixes like drinking alcohol and shopping sprees. These just left me feeling hollow and worse than I did before. I didn't feel powerful at all.?

Expert #1 would say to pack your schedule full of big shifts like hiring a personal trainer?and expert #2 would say?to donate your time into helping other people.?

While both of these suggestions are healthy contributions to a more healthy life, I still didn't feel the personal sense of power I was hoping for. I was easily provoked, codependent on outside validation of my body?and?worth. I didn't know HOW to really see or value myself until I started uncovering the limiting beliefs I was holding onto that obstructed my self-view.

Many people think that?going outside of themselves?is the best way to?step into their power?because?they are in their masculine energy and feel that obtaining power has to be hard. There is something about the human condition that we assume getting what we want needs to be difficult.

Others?aren't ready to take ownership of their life or claim personal responsibility for their current reality, making it harder for them to?step into their power.?

I learned that?there is a feminine energy component to recognizing ones personal power in the form of becoming still, going within to the inner environment, and developing an intimate?relationship with SELF.

You absolutely should NOT?push yourself to do more.

I recognized as I pushed myself to the point of burn out that my power didn't lie in the amount of tasks I was able to check off in a day.?

No matter what I did, I still couldn’t?gain the footing I needed to anchor myself in sovereignty. The voices around me were many and wanted to tell me how to live my life, what to do, how to dress, on and on..

Once I finally started?prioritizing my own self-care everything started to shift. Along with self care I got really clear on my boundaries. This time alone with myself in stillness shifted my focus from external forces to internal willpower.

You can do it too!

Read on for some sneaky limiting beliefs that may be holding you back from?actualizing your personal power, and how to turn them from a shout that paralyzes you into a whisper that doesn't stop your ACTION forward.?

Limiting Belief #1: "Self-care is too expensive and I don't have time for it."

If you're used to putting everyone's needs before your own, this is probably relatable to you.

How to turn it into your superpower

First, challenge your belief. After all, it’s just a belief and you have no proof that it’s reality (spoiler: it’s NOT!)

Ask yourself why you think that self-care has to be expensive. Is it that?your mind is flooded with images of spa days when you hear the words, "self care"? Is it because you secretly shame yourself any time you take 5 minutes for yourself? Does someone else tell you it is wrong if you're not fully invested in your kids, work, etc 24 hours a day, 7 days a week? What other money investments do you make in order to avoid? What does your calendar look like? Is it overbooked with "busy" work to help you avoid taking care of you?

Once you have the answers, think about what it would be like to do the opposite.?

What would it be like to take an hour or two just to do something for yourself that you have been putting off??Have you been wanting to hike, reread your favorite book, take that online class you paid for 6 months ago and haven't touched??

Would it make it?easier to not feel so drained if you prioritized restoring your energy?

You don’t have to take action now. Just let it sit with you and try to broaden your perspective.?Keep challenging yourself.?

When you’re ready, try reaching out for help. Here is a?resource I have developed that is available. Click on the link below to get started.

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Limiting Belief #2 –?The Martyr Archetype

The?shadow aspect of the martyr archetype is an individual who grasps for power instead of embracing the surrender to power. In my opinion being a martyr is a more intense version of playing the victim. What better shield to hide behind than being able to say that you?are sacrificing yourself for the good of everyone else?

"I can't travel until all the kids are out of the house because they need me." "I have responsibilities and duties that have to be completed before I can ____________."

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Sound familiar?

We all have a list of things we need to do, and in what order we want to do them.

But if you’ve been procrastinating on a goals and dreams?for weeks or months, it’s probably time to re-prioritize.?

How can you pour from an empty cup? How can the people in your life respect or appreciate you fully if you're overly available? Are you teaching self-reliance to your children? Are you codependent on the need of external validation that we call, "people pleasing"?

Do you really need to?martyr yourself until your whole life has passed you by? Or is it that?the real reason for this belief is that you are afraid to grow into your potential??

It’s common to?put things off until you think it's the perfect time.

But you know what?

There is NO perfect time to do the thing you REALLY want to do.

The things that scare you are the things that will change you for the better.?

I remember solo traveling for my first time internationally. I was scared, a bit?naive, and had every ability under the sun to make excuses not to go. But?I was tired. Tired of saying, "Next year I will go." I was tired of sitting on the sidelines and watching everyone post about their dream vacations. I wanted to stop romanticizing life and start living it. So I took action.

How to turn it into your superpower

Take BOLD action. We are taught that our value comes from sacrificing our?own needs?for others?to the point that we don't feel like an individual person anymore.?

ACTION:

I want you to go write down 3 things you've been wanting to accomplish for yourself?that you have been putting off. What lies have you been telling yourself that have kept you from making plans of action. Commit to ONE step you can take in the next week to help you get there.

Limiting Belief #3:?"What will my family and friends think of me if I _________."

"Expectations are premeditated resentments."

How many times have you?kept yourself small because you were afraid of how other people might react to you fully living your life? "What would people think about me if I left my family for two weeks and went on that dream vacation I have wanted since I was 20?"

You’re not alone. This is another belief that comes from a place of fear, and we all have them.

When you’re about to try something new, you picture all the things that can go wrong. I am sure this is the ego's way of protecting you.

The problem with worrying about what everyone thinks?is that it can prevent more empowering beliefs from forming. The amount of confidence you gain from tackling the thing you were afraid to do is far more expansive than giving your power away to what other people think about you.

The more that you are able to share who you are from a place of authenticity, the more you will attract like-minded individuals?who adore you as you are.

How to turn it into your superpower

Imagine a?time that you kept yourself small to please other people. How did it go? Did it keep them happy for very long?

You can absolutely lean into the art of detaching from other people's expectations of you.

Two baby steps you can take to help you let go of other people's expectations of you:

1. Start stating your boundaries out loud. Have you ever thought that stating your needs is also a form of stating your boundaries? What do you need in an interpersonal relationship? Is it a two-way street??

Get in the habit of expressing your wants, needs, and opinions.?

For example:

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I used to think that if I did everything right, lived according to everyone's model for my life that I would be happy. I was a wife and homemaker. I followed my husband around the country during a portion of a military career staying home, cleaning and cooking. I thought that if I proved to be a model Stepford wife that I would receive accolades and respect. I've been guilty of repeating this same political, dead end thinking in various other forms of my life. I have seen this limiting belief impact my artistic expression, social media, etc.?

This was never beneficial for me. It didn't matter what I did, there was always someone to offer criticism. I started resenting other people and lost self-respect. Self-respect is the worst type to lose.

According to Manhattan Mental Health Counseling,?

"Ultimately, the key to letting go of the expectations of others is not in fighting them, and certainly not resenting them, but rather keeping them in their proper place.

You can certainly benefit from the input of others, but not if it means squishing your inner voice. Your life is yours and yours only. You are in the best position to know what is best for you. Don’t let the expectations of others get in the way of being true to who you are."

I help you tackle the "Lies You Tell Yourself" in my Intro to Personal Branding Mini Course.?It is available to purchase here.?

Limiting Belief #4: You can't teach an old dog new tricks.

If you believe you are too old to change your ways, you’ll find ways to keep yourself occupied with distractions?rather than?shifting your life in a way that promotes abundance in your life.

Saying you are too old or the opportunity is gone for you is just like saying that?it’s not?really something that you want.

You're never too old to learn a new skill, start a new hobby, find a new way of being.

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Don’t be afraid to claim your highest ideals at any time in your life. You can always expand and grow. There is always room to become who you really are.

I challenge you to choose one day a week that you dedicate to learning something new.?

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You’re making great progress!

It’s time to turn your limiting beliefs into empowering beliefs! If you find yourself procrastinating on?claiming your personal power, think about why you?may be holding yourself back. Write down 10 limiting beliefs, and don’t be afraid to look at?them on paper.?

We all have them, remember? It’s what you do to challenge?them that counts.?

Will you push through and keep going? You bet you will!?

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