4 Keys To Empower Yourself If You Feel Like You're Struggling With Energy
Toni Courtney
Leadership Influence Expert | Leading Teams Through Change | Resilient & Adaptive Teams and Culture at Toni Courtney
We’re constantly bombarded with information. On average we make 35,000 decision a day1. ?If that’s not tiring enough, being in lockdown is emotionally draining.
If you’re feeling energetically low at the moment, you’re not alone. ?And when you feel like that, it’s harder to keep up the pace, get everything done and enjoy being at work, isn’t it??It also feels harder to bring your best self into every interaction.
I feel that every time we go into lockdown, it gets harder to keep positive and be there for my team a senior leader told me today.
Can you relate?
Whether you’re in struggle street or easy street, how you lead yourself is always your choice.
Conscious leaders speak with integrity, lead with authenticity and hold themselves accountable. How do you do that though?
Diet, exercise and sleep are important daily choices. Even more important than these, I reckon, are your choice of: perspectives that guide how you think, feelings that guide how you react, and your actions that impact others around you. These choices – whether you’re making them consciously or not – create how you experience your day and how you show up for others. That’s the tricky thing about leadership – you’re always on show to others who are taking their ques from you.
Conscious choice is the key to empowering yourself.
Your mindset matters.
Alison Margaritis is an Arbonne consultant. When she invited me to have a complimentary facial I said YES! Relaxing on my couch and being pampered…..who wouldn’t love that! While we were chatting, Alison mentioned conscious living. ?I was curious to know more so I was delighted when she said yes to an interview.
Conscious living and conscious leadership are synonymous.
To Alison, conscious living is about being grounded and humble. To her it means making choices congruent with her inner compass - her values and principles - so she can be intentional in how she shows up for herself and others.
I want to be present. I want to show up in the best way possible and do the right thing; which to me means letting go of ego, understanding how I can serve others, and be the person I aspire to be.
Use Alison’s 4 conscious living keys to bring your best to your every day.
Deciding you are good enough is the most empowering belief you can have about yourself.
Alison said You are not your behaviours. You are not your thoughts. Thoughts and behaviours are choices you make, but they don’t define whether you are good enough or not. You are good enough. We are all enough.
2. Self-reflect through high quality questions
Alison is self-aware. You need to be clear within yourself and able to understand yourself she said.
Alison self-reflects through a lens of curiosity rather than judgement. For example, she asks herself: What am I resisting? What am I attached to? What am I not seeing in this?
Learning about yourself means uncovering the layers about yourself. We all have blind spots she says.
3. Be good at reframing
Alison takes time to observe and pause. Reframing is choosing a perspective that best serves you and others.
In any situation, there are always more perspectives to choose from than you imagine. Choosing a constructive perspective is not about pleasing people, it’s about being prepared to see things differently. In other words, getting out of your head and figuring out what is needed to take the lead and start a conversation people will want to engage into.
4. Have habits that help things flow, but also be flexible
Maintaining discipline is important says Alison. Habits help create flow because you know what is going to happen. You know what to expect of yourself.
Flexibility is also key she said I don’t expect perfection from myself. And I don’t need to be in judgement about that. You need to listen to yourself and be aware of what you need. Today we got up at 9am. It wasn’t my 5am habit, but that’s okay too.
Ultimately, listening to yourself is the most important thing so you can give yourself what you need.
Bringing it all together
The only thing you control in life is yourself Alison says. Everything else is uncertain.
Have a crack. Have a go. Get into action.
The little things drive the big things. How we make people feel is how we create a difference to others. Your relationships are a function of all the little things that are driving your relationships.
Which one of these keys can you choose to pay more attention to that will help you become more conscious of showing up in line with what is most important to you? I’d love to know.
1 Adults Make More Than 35,000 Decisions Per Day. Here Are 4 Ways to Prevent Mental Burnout | Inc.com
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Toni Courtney is a leadership influence expert who works with leaders and teams to build core leadership capability. Email her at [email protected] to see how she can assist.
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3 年Super informative, love this... It serves as a great reminder for all of us Much respect ??
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3 年Thanks for the share great tips