#4 of 10 Speech Habits to Avoid

As I continue to share some common speech habits we think you should steer clear of, this next one, in my opinion, tops the list in terms of ones to avoid!

#4. 'Sorry'

Apologising for having something to say, for taking up space or for even asking a question is a 'national pastime', many of us take part in all too often

Habitually peppering our conversations with 'sorry' is a habit often passed down from generation to generation but, in my experience it can also be learned by simple association - If you are surrounded by apologisers it can be catching! So if you are 'guilty' of this one, remember, you could be passing it on! :)

Generally motivated by a wish to convey politeness and consideration, saying 'sorry' all the time, does much to undermine;

1. The value of what we are trying to say
2. Our place in the room
3. Our place in the conversation
4. The sincerity of our actual apologies!

Common Examples

‘I’m sorry, I don’t get it..’

‘I’m sorry to bother you…’

‘Sorry for jumping in…’

'Sorry I'm late'

'I'm sorry...'

Our Solution:

The next time you feel yourself about utter the word 'sorry' I invite you to pause and think of a more assertive substitute.

Here are some alternatives to the above, to help get you started

‘I don’t get it’ or ‘Can you repeat so I/we are clear’

‘Can I have a moment of your time?’ ‘Do you have a minute?’

‘Here's an idea that may help’

'Thank you for waiting'

'Excuse me...'

Are you (like I used to be) guilty of over apologising? Or maybe you have recently cracked the habit?

As always I'd love to hear your thoughts or experience, so please share in the comments below