36 questions to land your ideal role

Or rather the 36 questions to fall in love “interview style”

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There is a theory and a famous viral experiment of 36 questions that if you and the other party both ask them of each other you are likely to fall in love.?

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Find them here?The 36 Questions To Fall In Love ?

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This always fascinated me! (Yes of course I did ask and answer these with my now love Andrew) ?? and I may have asked and answered with most of all my other dates as well.

A?story for another day!

But YES Super fascinated how I felt towards the people before and after this experiment!?

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But I noticed a few things about this experiment.

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The main thing is:?

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Both parties have to be asked and both parties have to answer, it doesn’t work one-sidedly. (Which is ironically what interviews traditionally are)?

In interviews, both parties need to “fall in love” so to speak, for the hire to be successful just like a relationship, sooo it tells me the way we as a society are conducting interviews is mostly sided and that’s why I encourage my clients to flip the dynamic!

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Secondly: you can ask each other for better quality and increasingly deeper more vulnerable ones but that still doesn’t mean there is physical chemistry or compatibility, although the questions can go a long way in helping this develop faster if it’s going to develop at all.

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So it’s like a framework to fast-track love (but only if it was already likely to happen) and the parties are self-aware enough to see red flags in answers and not ignore them.?

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So I thought it would be fun to do my own version of this brilliant experiment and make 36 questions to find your ideal role.

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So here’s my version: imagine both parties are asking each other! But for your interviews, you can take your favorites and use them as you see fit!?

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Not all are serious so don’t come at me ????

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SET 1: ?

1. If you could hire any famous person for this role, dead or alive and budget was not an issue, who would you want to hire?? ?
2. Are you someone who appreciates public appreciation or private?? ?
3. Before showing up to the interview do you?practice the questions you’ll ask/answer in the mirror? ?
4. What would your perfect hire get done in one day? / What would the perfect manager or boss do in a day?? ?
5. When did you last give yourself a “pep talk” or when did you give someone else one?? ?
6. Would you rather live the rest of your career at the same company and have guaranteed eternal job security for an incremental 1-2% increase in pay per year OR not be committed to any company and have the ability to make larger (10-50% jumps) in salary and title but have no certainty or security which would you choose?? ?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will get laid off or fired?? ?
8. Name 3 things you and the interviewer appear to have in common. ?
9. For what in your career do you feel the most grateful? ?
10. If you could change one thing about the way you were raised what would you change?? ?
11. Take 2 minutes to each share a personal story about each other (can be work or non-work related)? ?
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one workplace super skill what would you choose? Can be a soft or hard skill. ?

SET 2:?

1. If a magic fairy came to you and offered to tell you exactly how your career was going to go all the way through to retirement for 5 cents. Would you do it?? ?
2. What is something you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time but haven’t done?? ?
3. What is the greatest accomplishment of your career? ?
4. What do you value most in a working relationship?? ?
5. What is your most heartwarming career-related memory?? ?
6. What is your most traumatizing career-related memory?? ?
7. If you knew in one year you would be fired from whatever job you’re doing suddenly what would you do now knowing that info?? ?
8. On a 1-10 rate the importance of relationships with your boss, skip level boss, co-workers, and subordinates.? ?
9. What roles do appreciation and acknowledging value play in your life?? ?
10. Alternatively, share 5 things you each admire or like about each other. ?
11. Do you feel you have been lucky or unlucky in your career so far? Say 1 reason why? ?
12. How do you feel about your relationship with your former boss/ your former hire for this role??

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Set 3:

1. Make 3 statements that are true about both parties: IE “We are both in an interview with the goal of finding an aligned match” ?
2. Complete this sentence: interviewer: I wish I had someone who I could trust to take on (fill in blank) interviewee: I wish I had someone I could trust to (fill in the blank)? ?
3. If a hire were to be made and you’d be working together closely each day, what is the most important thing the other person should know?? ?
4. Tell each other what you respect and admire about each other. Make it something you wouldn’t say to someone you just met.? ?
5. Share an embarrassing career mistake with each other? ?
6. When did you last have a difficult emotional moment at work? What caused it?? ?
7. How would you (or how do your friends or previous co-workers) describe your sense of humor? ?
8. If you were to die tomorrow what would be the thing you wish you would have gone after in your career?? ?
9. If your memory was erased tomorrow, (after saving memories of your family, friends, and loved ones) what piece of intellectual property would you save??
10. Out of all your previous work history which one do you least like talking about?? ?
11. Share a current problem and ask how the other person might handle solving it. Also, reflect on how the other person seems to be feeling about the said problem.?

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Choose a few of these questions that you feel comfortable with and experiment with asking them in interviews!

WHY the heck not?

Interviews don’t have to be stuffy, uptight, performances, they can be expansive, re-generating, life-giving conversations that fuel you forward whether you decide you’re a YES or a NO To that opportunity.?

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With love and gratitude!?

- Natalie

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