3 wrong Self- development expectations

# 1   I can’t have greater self-confidence than my genes and confidence allow

Labeling yourself as awkward, timid or shy reduces your current or default levels of confidence. As the saying goes, “seeing is believing.” Picture yourself as confident and soon enough you will begin to manifest behavior that gives evidence to this new ‘fact.’

Related wrong expectations

-          The habit of believing the world is focused on you lowers your natural confidence

That means you don’t have to be excessively sensitive about who you are or what you are doing (or not doing). You are not on the center stage; there is no need for preoccupation with self and perfectionism.

-         Focus too much on yourself and less on other people has a detrimental effect on your self-confidence

For example, think about what it is that is interesting about the person who’s the center of the party or the guy or girl you are talking with. Prompt them to talk more about themselves and be genuinely curious and interested in what they say. You will instantly come across as confident and warmhearted.

The sooner you realize this, the sooner you will start taking responsibility for your own life. The only person in the world who is capable of saving you is the person looking back at you in the mirror.

Wrong expectation #2: You define making money as success

The truth is that money is a powerful motivator – Yet money could make you bankrupt on other aspects of your life. It is better to see or view success making a contribution or adding value rather than seeing it as a way to simply add more zeros in your bank account

Wrong expectation # 3: You can succeed on your own

Success is not achieved independently. Many successful people have mentors and a support group of people who contribute to their success. By staying and hanging out around other people with successful traits you ignite and multiply your chances of attaining success