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3 WAYS WE GET ‘STUCK’ AND HOW TO DEAL WITH THEM!

Nigel Jones

Life Coach | Certified Positive Psychology Coach | NLP Practitioner | Author | Speaker | Founder 9KM BY 9AM | Brand, Marketing, Sponsorship & PR Expert | Fellow RSA | Marketing Agency Owner

发布日期: 2024年5月30日

Life is full of challenges and obstacles, and sometimes it feels like we're stuck in a rut, unable to move forward. Often, the reason we feel stuck is because we're focusing on the wrong things. This misplaced focus can lead to a miserable and unfulfilling life. As a life coach I see three main ways people get stuck and, more importantly, how they can break free from these patterns.

STUCK FOCUS

Focusing on Things You Can’t Control… This includes obsessing over the news, social media, and other external factors that are beyond our influence. When we fixate on these uncontrollable aspects, we not only waste our energy but also heighten our stress and anxiety levels. The constant influx of negative news can make the world seem more chaotic and dangerous than it actually is. Social media, with its endless comparisons and unrealistic portrayals of others lives, can make us feel inadequate and unhappy. This misplaced focus leads to a sense of powerlessness and despair.

Focusing on Lack – The Things You Don’t Have… Its easy to fall into the habit of constantly thinking about what we don't have, whether its money, success, relationships, or material possessions. This scarcity mindset creates a perpetual state of dissatisfaction and unhappiness. When we concentrate on our deficits, we overlook the abundance and blessings already present in our lives. This focus on lack can prevent us from appreciating the good things we do have and can lead to feelings of envy, frustration, and hopelessness.

Focusing on the Past or Future – Not the Present… While reflecting on the past can provide valuable lessons, excessive rumination can trap us in a cycle of regret and self-blame. Similarly, constantly worrying about the future can lead to anxiety and prevent us from enjoying the present moment. Living in the past or future means were not fully engaged with whats happening now. This lack of presence can hinder our ability to make positive changes in our lives and enjoy the beauty of the present moment.

GETTING UNSTUCK

If you find yourself stuck in any of these patterns, don't worry—there are ways to shift your focus and regain control of your life.

Focus on YOU – The One Thing You Can Control… The most powerful thing you can do is focus on yourself, as you are the only person you can truly control. This means taking responsibility for your actions, thoughts, and emotions. Instead of trying to change external circumstances, work on changing your internal landscape. Develop a growth mindset, practice self-compassion, and set personal goals that align with your values.

Focus on Things You Do Have – Practice Gratitude… Gratitude is a powerful antidote to the scarcity mindset. By focusing on what you do have, you can shift your perspective from lack to abundance. Start a gratitude journal, where you write down things you're thankful for each day. This practice can help you recognise and appreciate the positive aspects of your life, fostering a sense of contentment and well-being.

Focus on the Present Moment – Change Only Happens in the Now… Mindfulness practices, such as meditation and deep breathing exercises, can help you stay grounded in the now. By focusing on the present, you can reduce stress and anxiety, improve your mental clarity, and enhance your overall quality of life.

Remember, change only happens in the present moment. By shifting your focus to what you can control, practicing gratitude, and living mindfully, you can break free from the patterns that keep you stuck and create a more fulfilling and joyful life.

My book, Walking Back To Happiness: The Secret To Alcohol-Free Living & Well-Being shows you how I changed my story and found happiness and well-being and how you can to. Packed with over 70 exercises or steps you can take to improve your well-being and happiness, it’s a blueprint of how to live your best life! https://www.amazon.co.uk/Nigel-Jones/e/B0B7RP6LH6/

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