3 Ways to Create Boundaries While Being Heart-Focused

One of the most common questions asked of me is about running a heart-centered business.?

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I have written articles and shared videos on this topic and it will never get old in sharing ways to be of service to others, make a positive social impact and create big revenue for your brand. It always brings me tremendous joy to share ways to grow your revenue while staying soulfully connected.?

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However, one topic I have never covered is how to run a heart-centered business when dealing with unhealthy boundaries. If we lead with heart and soul, eventually we will come across scenarios that aren’t the best for us and even deemed unhealthy.?

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Just like in our personal lives, this can take place in business. And if we run heart-centered, how do we put up the boundaries with love, compassion yet with strength and self-protective vibes?

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Today, I am sharing three ways to create boundaries while still maintaining a love focused approach. There will always be people looking to take advantage of kind people, and looking to bully their way through using techniques that perhaps don’t come from love.?

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1. Stay centered in who you are and how you serve : It can be challenging to not get caught up into emotions that are not centered from a point of love, and even fall into combatting at a level that is unhealthy. Maintaining your grounded-ness, and removing yourself from the chaotic energy of others is one of the biggest strengths we can take on. Many years ago, I had a volatile client that was emotional, frenetic and unhealthy with their words and actions. I always maintained my calmness, tone of professionalism and never succumbed to losing my centered way. Eventually, I fired the client and later discovered it had nothing to do with me. They were like that with all their associates and team members. Stay centered, and continuously connect to holding the space of respect and understanding while setting your emotional boundaries. It’s rarely about you.
2. Respond from factual information and add doses of love : When discussions can get heated, stick to factual information and remove emotions. This sounds counter intuitive because love is an emotion. However, if things are heated, the response of just facts with no emotion diffuses the conversation. I learned this as a young child with a mother that had tendencies to pick fights with me. I learned at a very early age to maintain my cool, and keep the same tone and not follow suit with her emotions. Eventually, when you don’t fall under their spell of chaos, they move on to other techniques or battles. Stick to facts and add love where and when you can.
3. Be willing to walk away and still send love, kindness and good vibes their way : If you have tried to work with clients, colleagues and even partners, and the scenarios aren’t getting better, walk away. As we do in unhealthy relationships with friends or family members, the same can happen in business. You can walk away and still send them love. In the past, I have had people take advantage of my trust and I have walked away. However, I always send them love, light and good vibes. You can love from afar, and it’s good to forgive in order to calm and nurture your soul. When we hold on to anger, resentment, and that feeling of heaviness, it only hurts us and our energy. I even have a great mantra to share when closing out unhealthy relationships.

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A few additional questions to ask yourself so you can close out unhealthy relationships in the healthiest of ways.?

How did I become a stronger person in this situation??

How did this help me to be a better and more empathic human being??

How can I release this with as much love and goodness??

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We can find more love to help us heal and move forward. We can share more love even to those that perhaps pushed our boundaries and were not the healthiest. We can move forward in grace, love and forgiveness. As we move forward, we make space for more opportunities, bigger blessings and prosperous opportunities.?

About : Violette de Ayala is the Founder and CEO of FemCity, writer, blogger and influencer for women over 50. Violette has been published in Entrepreneur and has been seen in Glamour, MarieClaire, Good Morning America, Food52, MSNBC and Success Magazine. FemCity has been seen in Vogue, Gilt, and has formed partnerships with Google, Yelp and Neiman Marcus among others. To connect with Violette, visit?www.violettedeayala?or @violettedeayala on major social media channels.