3 Ways to Become the Choice Maker in Your Life

As seasoned women, we enjoy the roles of being a mother and grandmother. We love being a partner, spouse and friend. Yet, it’s not enough for us to live through others, to be someone’s wife and mother, but not SOMEONE in our own right.

It’s time that women begin to resist the plans that others make for us.?And instead of fading away or being the supporting role in someone else’s life, we are ready to become the Leading Lady,?the leading role in our own lives.?

We do this through becoming a Choice Maker in our lives.?Making choices that place us in the leading role of our lives.?This can become uncharted territory for many women. Because we tend to hold onto beliefs that says, "everyone else's needs are more important than mine and they must come first." This belief has us placing ourselves and our dreams on the back burners of our lives. Yet. It doesn’t have to remain this way. We can reclaim those unexplored parts of ourselves that we've somehow left on the back burner.

What does it mean to be the choice maker in your life?It means that what you choose to Do or BE must correspond with what is TRUE for you at a soul level. What you do with your life is then meaningful, it is something you know in your bones, at your core, and in your soul that is right for you.

It is impossible for anyone else to know your truth or judge it, particularly since the same role and set of circumstances can fulfill one woman and constrict another. When you see yourself as a choice maker, you take on the role of the leading lady in your life’s story.?You know that what you choose to do, or not do, has an effect.?You learn that when circumstances are unavoidable or even terrible, how you respond inwardly is a choice that may make all the difference.

The choices that shape your life and give it meaning may also depend on the possibility of imagining what you could do or having a name or image for what is stirring in your soul. This is where stories and role models may make the difference. This is also when you need spiritual resources, especially if others do not support the changes that you are making.? And many will not cheer when you begin to make claim to this new territory in your life, such as taking control, placing boundaries, and living your truth.?

I believe there are 3 things we can do to start becoming the choice maker in our own lives:

1. Take Control: Decide what you want and do not want. This shouldn’t be based on anything or anyone outside of yourself. Our choices have meaning and consequences. Who are you trying to save first? Is it you or them? When you save yourself first, you are strong enough to save others.?
2. Place Clear Boundaries. Boundaries are not meant to keep others away, they are mean to allow others to be in your life with harmony, ease, and grace. When we don’t set healthy boundaries, we allow others to become the choice maker for us. Learn to place healthy boundaries so you can live your life with other successfully. When boundaries are clear, we can enjoy healthy relationships with others because we are teaching them how to treat us.?
3. Live Your Truth. What’s real in your soul? Not your mind, but deep within? Start living your life by living what’s true for you and not what’s true for others. If quitting your job as a doctor and becoming an author and speaker is what’s makes your heart sing, then do it. I must also advise that you have a plan. Yet, you do have a right to live your truth, not other people’s agenda of what your life is supposed to be. When you begin to live your truth, your life has more meaning and becomes more fulfilling.?

You deserve to live the life you were born to live. It starts by you becoming the choice maker in your life. This is how our lives become Awakened.? And remember, Live Well and Love Deeply, ACP