3 Reasons Asking For Feedback Is The Key To Your Success

Oh, the dreaded F-word. No, not that one—I'm talking about feedback.

We often procrastinate asking for feedback unless we are among the brave few willing to step into the vulnerability it requires.

This hesitation can stem from constantly being bombarded with unsolicited feedback.

Whether it’s your in-laws schooling you on parenting or a colleague insisting that matcha is superior to coffee—unwanted feedback can be exhausting.

It's no wonder many of us shy away from seeking it voluntarily!

Recently, I attended a presentation skills course that changed my perspective entirely. What struck me was the openness of the participants to constructive feedback.

It dawned on me that this eagerness was largely due to the environment—one designed for learning and growth. And an awesome facilitator, Cameron Read ??, who created an environment where attendees understood that their presentations would be assessed.

This safe learning environment encouraged both peers and the facilitator to offer constructive comments that genuinely supported their development.

So, how can we seek feedback when we're not in such a primed situation?

1. Be Brave

Requesting feedback is a vulnerable act. The outcome could swing positive or negative, but it’s crucial to remember that feedback is essential for our growth. Bruce Lee once said,

“Ever since I was a child, I have had this instinctive urge for expansion and growth. To me, the function and duty of a quality human being is the sincere and honest development of one’s potential.”

Embrace that urge!

2. Don’t Waste Feedback

So you’ve mustered the courage to ask for feedback *Virtual High-5!*, and you’ve received it. Now what? Act on it. Treat this feedback with curiosity. Ask yourself reflective questions, and engage the person who provided the feedback in a dialogue. This is a monumental step in your development. Remember, an unwillingness to change is an unwillingness to grow.

3. If You Don’t Ask, You’ll Never Know

Whether the feedback is good, bad, or neutral, it’s critical to your personal development. I had an eye-opening experience while staying at a motel recently. I received a personalised text asking how my stay was. Unlike the typical “Rate us 5 stars on Google” messages, this communication was genuine. It solicited real feedback: How could they improve? What could make my stay more comfortable? As a family-owned business, they expressed a sincere desire to grow.

This approach prompted me to write a glowing five-star review without them even asking for it.

What does this tell us? I provided feedback ? They'll gain insight as to where they can improve ? I was a satisfied customer ? And I’m likely to return ?

So, Where Does Feedback Go Wrong?

While feedback needs to be honest, it also requires constructive commentary. The delivery is just as important as the content. Ensure your feedback is authentically communicated, balanced with positive remarks, and open to dialogue.

Let’s embrace feedback—both giving and receiving—as a vital tool for our growth and development. After all, it’s the key to unlocking our potential #YAY !

This article was written by Jayme-Lee Fechner for Front and Centre Training solutions. Email [email protected] to find out how we can help you with all of your coaching needs!