3 questions you should ask BEFORE you buy anything new this season.

It’s the time of year when the shops are full of newness, and we’re tempted to buy.?

And YET... we already know we've got wardrobes stuffed with clothes and nothing to wear.

Unashamedly, I will tell you that Autumn-Winter is my favourite season to inject some life into my wardrobe.?

Why??

In the UK, summer days are sporadic and never guaranteed. In spring it sometimes snows.?

We have many more chilly days than very hot. It stands to reason that you’ll get more wear from a nice knit than you will a high-summer dress.?

Add it over spring dresses to beat the chill in April, layer it with blazers and boots for extra warmth in winter.?

If you’re feeling the need to update your wardrobe, now is not the worst time to do it.?

*Deep inhale of breath* HOWEVER.?

We want you to shop from a place of empowerment.?

We want you to shop in a way that supports the vision you have for yourself.?

And so before you buy anything new - I’d invite you to ask the following questions.?

These are part of the ‘Vision’ exercise I take my clients through. There’s no point us hitting the shops and restyling what you have… if we haven’t stopped to consider whether it’s actually going to work for you.?

Naturally, I’d encourage everyone to work with a stylist rather than go and drop hundreds of pounds on new clothes.?

But I think it’s important to understand that I do this from a place of ‘coaching.’

I am not a stylist who’s going to tell you ‘you’re an {X} season, wear only these colours’ or ‘you shouldn’t wear that shape with your body.’

I’ve had clients who’ve come to me after having worked with stylists in that traditional sense… and who are left feeling even worse about themselves.?

Telling you to ‘wear this colour’ or ‘wear this shape’ is a surface-level solve.?

Unless we dig into the WHY of what you’re currently wearing (or not wearing) and how you feel - we won’t fix your wardrobe woes.?

In a few months you’d have filled your closet with the colours and shapes I’ve suggested… but you still won’t be wearing any of it.?

Doing this vision exercise is VITAL (and yes, the caps are me screaming at you), if you want a wardrobe that works for you.?

And spoiler: you DO want a wardrobe that works for you.?

Because when you feel good, you do good. You make more money and you create a ripple effect in the world.?

3 Words

If you were to describe the style you want to create yourself, what 3 words come to mind?

Now - what 3 words come to mind when you think about your current style?

Instantly, you might realise the disconnect.?

Oftentimes when I ask my clients this question, the words for ideal style are ‘professional/fun/chic’... and the words for current style are ‘bland/frumpy/basic’?

Doing this exercise puts some perspective on what’s going 'wrong' with your style.

You helps you hold a mirror up to your actions and your thoughts. Because if you're saying you want one thing but you're dressing for the opposite... it's no wonder you feel like your progress is slow.

10/10?

With 10 being ‘amazing’ and one being ‘awful’ - where on the scale do you feel about your current style?

If you were to take every item out of your wardrobe and assess them honestly - where would they fall on the scale?

When you buy things, is it because they're 10/10 - or is it because 'they'll do?'

When I first introduce feeling 10/10 to clients, they struggle. Like you, they've spent their whole lives in a society that teaches them not only to feel ashamed of their bodies, but that also tells them feeling good is selfish and vain.

Women in particular can become victim to martyrdom when it comes to their own health, wellness and happiness. Outside influences come first. Outside needs come first.

And so when I say - from now on we are only interested in tens...

It feels awkward and icky.

But getting down to it - not feeling as good as possible is keeping money away from you.

How?

If you're operating from a '3' or a '4', you lack the confidence to go for opportunities you deserve.

So if you have big business dreams, you feeling great is not a 'nice to have' - it's a necessity.

The Practicals?

Shiny Object Syndrome is real. It has been the downfall of many a good intention when I’ve stepped into a Zara!?

But SOS doesn’t give us good style.?

Why?... we don’t wear it.?

It’s no good you wanting to build a wardrobe of satin when you’ve got chocolatey-fingered toddlers hanging off your arms.?

It’s no good you buying skyscraper heels when you have to commute from one side of a city to the other on foot.?

Practical doesn’t have to mean boring, but somewhere between want and need there is a happy medium.?

Asking these things of both your existing wardrobe AND the things you're considering bringing in to it will focus your mind, focus your style... and help you make money!