3 Questions to Ask Yourself to Thrive in Life

In my morning meditation today, I was reflecting on what it means to thrive in life. And 3 questions came up for me.

1. What are you clinging on to?
2. Where do you need to create better boundaries?
3. How are you answering your deepest callings?

For where I’m at in life now, this really does feel like the golden trifecta of a life well lived.

What are you clinging to??

When we cling to an idea, person, situation or outcome, it usually comes from a place of fear. Perhaps we are not ready to let go of what we know. Or we are not ready to face what is to come, especially if it's unknown. I was in a corporate job for 15 years. It was very hard to release my sense of identity as a boss babe, career woman, whatever the go-getter, hustle-hero term is. But it's been such a joy to release that and the expectations that came with it.

When we cling too tightly to something, we try to control it and possess it. We don't actually give it room to blossom into what it needs to. And when we cling too tight to what no longer serves us, both our hands are too full to receive what is actually meant for us. On the flip-side, what are you ready to welcome into your life that will help you thrive?

Where do you need to create better boundaries?

Boundaries are an active growth area for me. I value creating and maintaining a sense of harmony in my environment. And sometimes boundaries can appear to disrupt that. If you have tendencies towards people-pleasing, preferring to keep the peace and not rock the boat, ask yourself, “Is this really peace? Am I feeling peaceful?”

Boundaries are not how we keep people out, they’re actually how we draw people in. And healthy connections with others and ourselves is a key pillar of thriving. Boundaries are what allows us to love and support ourselves as we love and support others. Establishing and maintaining them is an active practice, I’m learning to do better every day. There is so much more for me to share on this, keep a lookout for my next article on this topic.

How are you answering your deepest callings?

Quick caveat - I don’t have the silver bullet to this existential question. But what I am doing is making time to listen, and I mean deeply listen, to my heart. My mornings almost always involve some form of meditation, mindful watering of plants and sitting on my balcony looking out at the trees.

I believe our deepest callings may not always show up in flashy neon lights, they may not be a blaring loud voice. They could flutter in little whispers during our moments of quiet stillness. They may show up sporadically, in signs and symbols that we could totally miss if we are too caught up in the doing and forget to be. In order to answer our deepest calling, we have to start by listening to ourselves.

I would love to hear your thoughts on what a thriving life feels like and how you’re creating that for yourself. As always, please share your comments below or DM me if you prefer a private chat.