???????? № 3 – No

What is one of the easiest yet strongest ways to take a position of power?

The word NO.

Not every plea should be indulged.

Not every gift is sincere.

Not every attack merits a response.

In a world of “yes-men”, saying “no” demands respect.

Even in times when the odds aren’t in your favor, saying “no” is the only way to go, regardless of how you may want to turn the tides.

Here’s five times you should say no.

1. Power Play.

All human interactions have a position of power – be it relationships, work, family, society. Every person desires, either consciously or subconsciously to lead, by leadership or by manipulation.

When faced with a proposal that doesn’t imply any contribution, it’s best to refuse before any hidden caveats arrive.

Some seek to be slaves, and so seek a master to chain them.

The enlightened are beholden to nothing but the question mark, the symbol of the infinite and the ever–changing unknown.

Always take time to analyze what’s being offered, regardless of what “promises” are being offered, for yourself or the betterment of others. If there’s no clear agreement on the former, it will definitely be the latter.

2. Free “anything”.

As I hope most of you understand, nothing in life is free.

If there is no way of repaying, someone is taking advantage of you, without you even knowing.

People will grab anything thrown at them as long as it costs nothing and it has shiny lights.

Life is give-and-take. If your given, find a way to give back, and often more than what you receive. Best to choose what you give back rather than letting the other person decide what they ask for in return.

3. Nothing to gain.

Kindness is both a blessing and a curse. Don’t let people take advantage of you, protect your interests.?

The more you have, the more offers you will get with nothing to gain in the end. And people will take advantage of your kindness as much as you let them.?

People believe Narcissism to be a negative trait. I see it more as a perspective of self as protected treasure and faith in one’s ability to withstand – which is why saying “no” in many ways is an infinite prerogative of power.

One of the most important lessons I learned from a drunken fisherman in Malta is “know your limits”. Most people will depend on you for their happiness and prosperity, but you should be a rock when everyone is the sea that tries to corrode you.

4. Second sins.

Every sin and blasphemy can be forgiven, but letting someone repeat a sin is vanity on your end.?

Second chances are an invitation to be taken advantage of again, in the hopes that the other person can change. Every second chance will be abused.

5. Happiness.

Everyone will tell you what’s good for you and what you should do.

Not many will want you finding your own answers.

People are afraid of looking within and finding what’s inside, even though that’s the only place you’ll find what you need.

Happiness is about not making any choices. Happiness is the choice.

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That’s it for today.

Too many people are afraid of saying NO.

Say YES to saying no.

And remember…

Bravery is the father to fortune.

See you next Monday,

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