3 magical tips to help you saying NO more often

When you are saying YES to something at the same you are saying NO to something else. Yes, to completing yet another task that you don't want to complete is saying no to free time you create for yourself to recharge. Saying no to someone can be a yes to yourself and can help you creating healthy boundaries. BUT:

Let's dig a little bit deeper here.

There is an interesting cycle that is created by refraining to say no. It starts with you saying yes to something/someone else either verbally or non-verbally. In most of the cases, it can be about pleasing others and might be a frustrating experience to yourself. After this happens a lot, you are getting more and more requests where you are saying yes where in fact you mean no. This process continues and you might start feeling overwhelmed and maybe experiencing lack of appreciation and acknowledgment that you would deserve. It might also continue with you realizing that people start taking you for granted. If it goes on for too long, it might lead to a burnout. So, please watch out for this cycle as this can be your number one magical tip. Remember: practice makes perfect, so keep observing and being in the alert mode while in conversations with others.

Another recurring pattern that I observe in myself and others is the overwhelm and carrying the heavy load of those many tasks to be completed. Indeed, it is too much. However, when you reflect on it, you might realize that it is you who created it. How? Simply by saying yes, and agreeing to too many things. What happens at the end? What really matters the most to you, might be at the bottom of that list. You know it is more likely than not, that it is self-care that goes to the bottom of that list. And if you translate this into other terms, you might say:

Am I prioritizing other people's needs/desires over my own?

Developing a new habit is easy, getting rid of or transforming an old habit takes forever. So in this case, you can choose yourself in every choice you are making. When saying yes or no, next time maybe just ask yourself: Is this what I really want? What do I truly desire here? What is my heart longing for? Some quiet time and couple of deep breaths after this question will bring you the answer in a gentle and peaceful way.

So just listen to your heart!

Listening is a skill we have a lifetime to develop. When you are deeply listening to yourself, you have clarity about how and when to say no. Serenity is the state you want to hide in, when you don't know and when you are feeling uncertain as for how to respond. Go to your place of eternal tranquility, you can reach there immediately.

It is within your heart! Believe in it! Say YES to yourself!

Stay loved,

Beatrix :)

Beatrix is sending you these messages in form of a newsletter to serve your growth so that you can start and/or continue your journey of self-development. You can connect with her for a private conversation of transformation or start co-creating and embarking on a joint adventure together. Her details and how to get in touch is on her website: www.beatrixhenkel.com