3 Covert Ways Getting In Shape Can Improve Your Relationship Life

1.? ? ? Improve relationship intimacy

Sex. The 3 letter word that every person wants to read about (and few people are brave or crazy enough to write about).

It’s also a crucial part in every healthy relationship with a partner.?

And how you feel about yourself – and your partner feels about you – is a clear indication of both the frequency and the quality of sexual intercourse.

One of the best ways to improve your sex life in a relationship, and this applies for both men and women, is to improve yourself. One of the best ways to improve yourself is to get in shape.

2.? ? ? Make relationships last longer

“This isn’t working anymore.” - We’ve all heard this sentence.

“It’s not you, it’s me.” – Yep. Sure it is.

Instinctively we do know that the second statement - “It’s not you, it’s me.” - is mostly a comforting lie.

The reality is that breakups are usually a calculated decision. The unhappy partner weighs both pros and cons of staying with us vs. engaging with other partners.

If the imagined value of other partners + thrill of novelty outweighs the value of us + comfort/ familiarity, the result is usually a breakup.

Our partner/ex-partner is obviously not spreadsheeting this. This is a rather unconscious calculation that has been favored to guarantee species survival for millions of years of evolution.

The solution? Do not let yourself go in a relationship. I’d like this to be different, but you absolutely MUST keep your own value high, if you’re looking to retain a high-quality partner.

But.. how to get a high-quality partner in the first place?

3.? ? ? Get a high-quality partner

This might sound like an obvious thing, but it’s something that very few people talk about:

Look, unless you absolutely WANT to take a break from dating altogether, there’s 0 reason to be single for months or even years at a stretch.

Trust me, there was a period when I was unhappily single for years. I 100% believed it was a ‘lack of strategy’ or the ‘lack of the perfect pickup line’ - oh boy, was I wrong.?

In reality.. it was me.?

I realized that I just hadn’t that much to offer:?

1. I was addicted to video games, sometimes I spent days without leaving home.?
2. I was living at my parents' place.?
3. I was working a job that I didn’t like - and didn’t pay. Which is never a good combination.?
4. I was not in shape (which also kept me isolated).?

Getting feedback from the ladies that I truly wanted to date, I realized that even 1 of these 4 is considered a deal-breaker.

What is the solution I chose? Improving myself. Getting my life sorted. And I started with the thing that I had the most control over: Getting in shape.?

I knew I wouldn’t become a George Clooney or Brad Pitt. I didn’t need to. The biggest benefits for me were psychological:?

1. Feeling good enough.?
2. Feeling deserving.?
3. Feeling like a good catch.?

And those psychological benefits EVERYONE can have, with the right strategy and system.