# 22 Women's need to be heard & Men's need for space

Being in a relationship with someone is one of the beautiful things in the world. It has the capability to satisfy your physical, psychological and social needs if rightly used.

But how often we are happy being in a relationship. Either you're someone looking for a relationship or trying to fix an existing relationship, this article will help you exactly do that.

Women have different needs than men and vice versa. But more often, we confuse our needs with our partner's needs, and we give more of what we thought they need. We end up getting exhausted by giving more. But still, we feel the partner's resentment towards us.

What women really need?

How much money do you bring home? How much work you do? It doesn't matter if you can't just be there for her. Women's primary need for love is just to be heard. When women are overwhelmed with their problems, they want to talk. It is entirely different from what men need. Men need to be alone to process their problems. This single statement can help you do miracles in your relationships.

Women are like waves. When they are at the peak, they shover love with you. But when they hit their bottom, they need your support. How to support her? It's not really a big task. Just sit with her and listen. Don't judge her. Don't provide solutions. Don't multitask. Turn off yourself from all the other tasks and be there for her. That's the greatest form of love you can do to her.

By now, you might've thought this guy is so biased towards women ??. But unfortunately, no. Bear with me until the end.

What do men need?

When women are overwhelmed with the problems, they talk. But men go alone. They need space either to process their problems or for a short break from the world. It may seem like they abandoned everyone. Women can't understand men's need to be alone. Because when women stop talking, it says either they're upset or they're trying to avoid. But it is neither for men.

Because of this common misconception, women constantly try to engage them by asking questions like what's the problem, what can I do to help you, and so on. But these questions make the situation even worse for him. Because he thinks something is wrong with him. When men are upset, the worst thing women can do constantly asking questions of why do they feel the way they do.

Women have to learn to give some time for men to come back. This small gesture makes them feel more loved.

This article is only part of what I learnt in the book called "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" made by John Gray. If you want to be a more loving partner, gift yourself this book. The concepts you learn will be a beautiful gift to your partner than whatever material things you may do.