2022 - Feel so you Do so you Get

How has 2021 been for you?

Do you have plans for 2022?

I do hope so because unless you plan it, it won’t happen

But these are two quite difficult things actually – planning, and then doing.

Most people have things they want, but often they don’t have plans for how to get there?

(note - this looks photoshopped but I really did it)

- or they do have plans, but they don’t take action

Clearly we can’t do any planning or acting unless we know where we want to go, so it has to start with goals.??Do you have those for 2022?

Goals are often just things that we want, things we would like to have, - they might be material things, (which probably won’t make us happy but that’s another story!) - but they might also be things like happiness and security, ….but often we don’t have plans about how to get them

New Years’?resolutions?are often things that we are going to do, wanting to do,?we know we need to do -?but then we just end up not doing them

• Get more exercise
• Give up smoking
• Spend more time with the family
• Not get so stressed
• Clear out the shed or the attic

Great goals, but will we do them?

Laziness and fears – and life – end up getting in the way, so nothing changes.

To get better results in 2022 you have to DO things differently

(there's that definition of madness - doing the same thing and hoping for a different result)

To do things differently you have to feel different

Is it obvious that feelings lead to actions???Maybe not, but think about it, they are the fire under you that make you get up off the sofa.

But how to feel different?

There are three ways to do it

1 – Have?goals?that excite you and visualise them to you get motivated

2 -?Self talk, what you say to yourself.??“I can do this”, “I am going to do this”, rather than “It’s going to be hard” and “What if I fail?”.??Most of us have pretty bad self talk, and yet it’s quite easy to change. Only feed good stuff into your own head.??Why would you feed anything else into that all-important place?

3 - Feel different so you take more action and get better results

But how do we get this started, how can we suddenly FEEL different?

The answer is that it’s a circle, and all you need is a small iteration to get it started.

And you can start with either Doing or Feeling.??As we’ve seen, you can get a small change in Feeling from self talk and visualising goals, which might be enough to make you do a little bit, which will lead to small results and then give you a good feeling of progress – “Yes!??I’m doing this!??It’s real!” (imagine just learning three Italian words – you are now on the way to learning Italian!??Imagine throwing just one thing away from your shed or attic – you’re doing it!??It feels good!)

Maybe you can DO that small first step without the feeling, just put it in your diary or get a friend to work with you on it, so you get started.??That first visit to the gym that makes you feel good and gets you back into the habit after Christmas…

So that’s the key to a brilliant 2022: have big exciting goals, and then FEEL how good they will be, and then take the first small step of DOING, observe and enjoy the first small results, and then you’re circle is going.

Don’t be put off by the size of the mountain, just imagine the view from the top, and then take one small step - and you’re on your way

Have a great holiday and a great start to the new year everyone!

Chris

PS - Learn more about Happiness and Success Habits here:?LinkedIn Learning, and?Udemy

PPS - and Life Skills Collection here:?www.lifeskillscollection.com

PPPS - article on goals here - https://www.chriscroft.co.uk/setting-goal-make-likely-happen/

PPPPS - video on "Do --> Get --> Feel" here - https://youtu.be/FbXDFvIqABU