Research: The Key Ingredient to Genuine Happiness
Daniel Goleman
Director of Daniel Goleman Emotional Intelligence Online Courses and Senior Consultant at Goleman Consulting Group
We would all like to be happier in our personal and professional lives, even those of us who already love what we do, or are content with personal accomplishments. As the year comes to a close, we often become more introspective: what do we want to do more/less of next year? What worked, and what didn’t?
Richard Davidson of The Center for Investigating Healthy Minds is a research pioneer on the benefits of meditation. One positive outcome of meditation that’s piqued his interest is happiness.
Mirabai Bush spoke with Richard for the series Working with Mindfulness: Research and Practice of Mindful Techniques in Organizations. Davidson talked about his research with long-time meditation practitioners. His findings helped him piece together what may be important ingredients for genuine or enduring happiness.
“When we're talking about genuine or enduring happiness, we're not talking about the transient change that you experience when you eat a good meal. Or when you buy a new product, after which you rapidly return to your set point. We're talking about an enduring change that persists across contexts.
Based on our findings, one of the key ingredients seems to be compassion. This is something that His Holiness the Dalai Lama talks about very often. He said one of the best ways to promote one's own happiness is to be kind to others, to be generous. There's good experimental research to support that.
In one study, participants came into the lab in the morning and were given $100 each. They were told to spend the money on themselves.
Another group was given the same amount of money but were told to buy things for other people and give it to them. The only restriction: you can't use any of the money for yourself. At the end of the day, guess which group reported much higher levels of happiness?
The givers.
We see this repeatedly. The evidence is beginning to grow that adopting a stance that is focused on other as opposed to self is something that really helps to promote well-being and happiness.
Another study found that 47% of the time the average American is mind wandering and not paying attention to what they're doing. What are we thinking about? The mind wandering is typically self-focused. And when they are self-focused, they report most of the time that they are in a relatively negative mood. They're not happy.
One of the conclusions from that study is that a wandering mind is an unhappy mind. I think that if we can direct our thoughts toward the well-being of others, it actually will help in promoting a more enduring, genuine kind of happiness.
In the long-term practitioners we studied we noticed that they practiced compassion so much that it becomes an automatic response. They're always focused on the well-being of others and not on themselves.”
What do you think?
Can you remember a time when making someone else happy enhanced your own well-being? Share your experience in the comments.
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Senior Supply Chain Advisor, Innovation & Transformation Programs Lead for EMEA at Dell Technologies
9 年Wandering mind is not a happy mind, mind occupied with others is also not do great. Have the awareness of your own mind while focusing to nourish the minds of others. Mind is like a wild animal that needs certain discipline so that it does not mess around with you, needs to be taken care of every single day. Unattended mind is a dangerous one! Watch your mind...every single day.
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9 年This is very interesting to read as it also relates to my observation that also giving more attention to others already makes you happier. Nevertheless we still see most managers being more self-focused than anything else. If they would pay more attention in listening to what others have to say and observing what others do instead of continuously presenting their egos, they might also be able to discover and develop more talents in their organization and become happier while doing that.
Sr. NuGenesis SDMS System Administrator at Regeneron, MS -information security @Devry -(July 2024)
9 年It is very true that our success is measured by how many people we bless by giving in most instances. At least that is how I measure my success. Giving somebody or another something of a need or want makes u appreciate your level of success. Even though you might want more the thought of being better than another through giving what u have but they don't, is self fulfilling. The inner happiness u get to see somebody smile or make the person happy is eternal and increases your compassion for others which helps you do more good to others. Great article!!
mathematics coordinator at National College Automotive Technology
9 年I'm sure every human being would like to help and gives, the problem when you be positive in the work and try to offer your help and knowledge that will be translated as showing of your self and the reaction will be disappointed . really I like my work but the environment is ont encouraging because of some employees force you to think agents what you believe.
Supervisor at Heart and Body Naturals Products and manager at CROWD1
9 年many successful people are givers. Meeting others needs make feel at peace. Great article.