Forget Someone's Name? 6 Tips for Faking It
Gretchen Rubin
6x NYT Bestselling Author | Host of the "Happier with Gretchen Rubin" Podcast | Pre-order "Secrets of Adulthood," out April 1st
I have a lot of trouble remembering people’s names, and I've developed some strategies to deal with that. Of course, I could just say politely, “I’m sorry, I don’t recall your name,” but I prefer to disguise my forgetfulness.
If you face the same challenge, try these tricks:
1. The “I know your name, but I’m blocked” dodge:
“I keep wanting to call you ‘David,’ but I know that’s not right.”
2. The “Of course I know you — in fact, I want all your information” dodge:
“Hey, I’d love to get your card.”
3. The “The tip of my tongue”dodge:
“I know I know your name, but I’m blanking right now.”
4. The “You’re brilliant!” dodge:
“Wow, you have a terrific memory. I can’t believe you remember my name from that meeting six months ago. I can’t remember the names of people I met yesterday! So of course I have to ask you your name.”
5. The “Sure, I remember you” dodge:
(Advanced) “Remind me – what’s your last name?” If you ask a person for his last name, he’s likely to repeat both names. “Doe, John Doe.”
6. The “One-sided introduction” dodge:
“Hey,” you say to the person whose name you can’t remember, “let me introduce you to Pat Smith.” You introduce the two and say the name of the person whose name you remember. Almost always, the nameless person will volunteer his or her name. I just used this strategy three days ago.
Also, remember that others might have trouble remembering your name. When you’re saying hello to someone, err on the side of re-introducing yourself. “Hi, John, it’s Gretchen Rubin.” Say your name slowly and clearly. And don’t get offended if someone doesn’t remember your name!
Have you found any good strategies for doing a better job of remembering names — or pretending to remember them?
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9 年Awsome .... great examples
Occupational Health and safety Specialist, MSc
11 年I meet one people yesterday and I cannot remember her name!!! but she knows me very well!!! i use 3 and that's good.
Founder - Vyapaarshala, Founder - Nigam Academy and Author
11 年Great suggestions... However, in my humble opinion for point no 5, it is not a good idea to ask someone's last name in India. People find it uncomfortable.
Business Development Manager @ LOQI | Business Development
11 年For me personally I would rather apologetically fault my own error, than make up a lie. These plans, if they backfire, can make you seem disingenuous, and TBH that's the last thing I want to do when meeting someone for a first or second...or third time that I didn't remember.
Member Board of Directors @ KSA&D | Marketing, Strategic Planning, B2B Sales
11 年All great suggestions...uh...“I know I know your name, but I’m blanking right now.”