20 life lessons from father to son & daughter

Credit - Twitter Thread - Save Your Sons

Recently I read this amazing twitter thread where a father who wants the best for is sons is sharing his nuggets of wisdom.

Here are these 20 lessons. A few of them can be controversial, but not harm in understanding and respecting diversity of thoughts and opinions.

We dont have to agree with everything.

Also while the lessons are mainly addressed to "sons", most of them can be very well applicable to "daughters" as well.

1. No one will love you as much as your mother.

No woman, no friend, no organization will ever love you as much as your mother. Her love is unique. It's a blessing you can rely on.

But to expect this type of love from anyone else, especially your spouse, will lead to heartbreak.

2. There's no such thing as ‘fair’.

Life treats us all differently, and in this way we're all the same.

Some are dealt an easy hand. Some face unbelievable difficulty.

The only certainty is that fate isn't fair. Don't compare yourself to others. Their life isn't the same.

3. The right man/woman will propel you to greatness.

And the wrong one will lead to ruin.

When selecting a mate choose a man/woman who aligns with your values and supports your goals.

If you want the same things out of life, and you walk in lockstep, you'll both be unstoppable.

4. Pornography is evil.

Porn is designed to hijack and overstimulate your dopamine reward pathway.

This destroys your natural masculine drive to create, reproduce, and conquer.

Not to mention it profits off the exploitation of countless women and underaged girls. Very bad news.

5. Your ancestors knew more than you think.

Don't dismiss their ideas, customs, and traditions just because they're "old".

"Tradition is a solution for problems that have been forgotten. Remove tradition, you get the problem back".

Honor your ancestors and keep them close in mind.

6. You must control your emotions.

Read carefully: do NOT suppress your emotions. CONTROL them. Big difference.

Develop the discipline to control the time, manner, audience, and means of their expression.

Remember: if you're led by your emotions you can't possibly lead others.

7. Pain is a pre-requisite for growth.

The strongest men always experience the most pain.

That's the reason they're strong.

Pain either kills you or makes you stronger. So as long as you stay alive, see pain as an ally.

8. There's always someone smarter than you.

There's always someone smarter. There's always someone more talented. There's always someone more blessed by the world.

Know and leverage the strengths you have. Know how to befriend those with the strengths you lack.

9. Women (and men) are attracted to value.

Here's the big secret: women want winners.

Simple as that. Who would've thought?

Go out and make yourself undeniably great, focus on your mission, and you'll realize there are plenty of good women in the world who want to join you.

10. Men and women recoil from neediness.

If you're the most important thing in his/her life, your time with him/her is limited.

Why?

Neediness is a cousin of desperation. Neediness implies "he/she's the best you can get." It implies he/she's your only option.

And what man/woman would want that?

11. Physical strength = overall strength.

Creating an enviable physique is hard. It requires discipline and years of training.

Do it anyway.

Life is easier when you're strong. Be strong and the world will treat you differently.

It's not fair, it's just reality.

12. People treat you how you treat yourself.

Nobody will ever respect you more than you respect yourself.

If you present yourself like a slob...

If you take no pride in your appearance, physical health, hygiene...

If you're a servant to vice...

No one will take you seriously.

13. Fix the lightbulb.

And take out the trash. And unclog the toilet. And replace your air filters.

If little things around the house need to get done, do them. That's your job. Nobody's going to do it for you.

Take ownership of your surroundings. That's what a man does.

14. Everything is earned.

You're owed nothing. And the world will treat you as such.

You must believe you're capable, and you must believe you WILL achieve your goals.

But never rely on others to do the work for you.

Remember: if you don't earn it, it isn't really yours.

15. Self-respect is supreme.

Without self-respect, nothing else in life is possible.

Discipline, integrity, work ethic, your values: they're all made possible through self-respect.

Guide yourself by asking: "What would a self-respecting man do?"

Then do that thing. Forever.

16. Be kind to all.

Magnanimity is the real flex.

Kindness implies strength. Only a strong man can afford to be truly kind...

Because in doing so he expects nothing in return.

But don't confuse kindness with 'niceness'. These are two VERY different things.

17. Regret will kill you.

You'll make mistakes.

There will be many times regret rears its head. You'll look back on your past and wince.

Instead: see it as data.

It's just lessons to learn and get better.

And remember: no one thinks about you more than you think about yourself.

18. Practice seasons of asceticism.

There's a reason all cultures throughout history practice some version of asceticism.

Removal of unearned dopamine isn't just good for the brain, it's good for the soul.

If you can find peace when you have nothing, you can find peace anywhere.

19. Find a fraternity.

We evolved for brotherhood and friendship among equals.

But we've lost our way as a society. Men today are isolated, alone, tribeless.

This is the cause of much of their unhappiness. I don't care if you're "introverted", you need other men/women in your life.

20. It's supposed to be hard.

When you're doing something difficult and you want to quit, remind yourself:

"It's supposed to be hard. If it was easy, I wouldn't be getting better."

Becoming elite is never easy. If it was, that word would lose all meaning.

Seek difficulty daily.