18 Signs You’re Overthinking

Many of us get caught up in overthinking—excessively analyzing something or dwelling on possibilities. We think about some things—mostly bad things—too much and for too long.

It can be mentally replaying embarrassing moments or worrying about an upcoming meeting. Our thoughts spiral out of control when someone mentions out of the blue that we need to talk.

There are two prevalent forms of overthinking: ruminating (involuntary, compulsive thinking) and worrying (fretting about potential problems or imagining bad outcomes).

Overthinking is very common. In my?Traps Test , with responses from more than 600 people around the world so far asking about more than 60 common traps that inhibit people’s happiness and quality of life, overthinking is the top trap.

According to researcher Susan Nolen-Hoeksema, 73% of people aged 25 to 35 admitted to overthinking at some point in their lives. She found that overthinking is more common among women, but common for men too. When author Jon Acuff and Dr. Michael C. Peasley asked 10,000 people if they struggle with overthinking, 99.5% of respondents said “yes.” What’s more, 73% reported that it made them feel inadequate, and 52% said it left them feeling drained.

18 Signs of Overthinking

Overthinking can include the following:

1. having trouble shutting off our thoughts
2. criticizing ourselves excessively for something we did in the past
3. having so many thoughts and not knowing where to begin
4. cycling through possible scenarios in our minds
5. fearing that?we’re not enough ?and that others will judge us harshly or reject us
6. frequently wondering what others are thinking of us
7. assuming the worst and imagining terrible outcomes (catastrophizing )
8. bombarding ourselves with?negative self-talk
9. having trouble?making decisions
10. getting caught up in “analysis paralysis” and not moving forward on things
11. second-guessing our decisions
12. changing our mind often
13. fearing that we’ll never get better or that our situation won’t improve
14. mentally replaying awkward moments
15. getting stuck in negative thought loops and uncomfortable emotions
16. feeling anxious, restless, or unsettled often
17. experiencing mental fatigue
18. having a hard time focusing on the present moment (because we’re thinking about the past or the future)

“While you were overthinking, you missed everything worth feeling.” -Nitya Prakash, Indian writer

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Reflection Questions

1. To what extent are you struggling with overthinking?
2. How is it affecting your mental health and well-being?
3. What will you do to?tame your overthinking dragons ?

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Tools for You

• Traps Test (Common Traps of Living)? to help you identify what’s getting in the way of your happiness and quality of life
• Quality of Life Assessment ?to help you discover your strongest areas and the areas that need work and then act accordingly
• Personal Values Exercise ?to help you clarify what’s most important to you

“A crowded mind leaves no space for a peaceful heart.” -Christine Evangelou, writer

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Gregg Vanourek ?is a writer, teacher, TEDx speaker, and coach on leadership and personal development. He is co-author of three books, including?LIFE Entrepreneurs: Ordinary People Creating Extraordinary Lives? (a manifesto for integrating our life and work with purpose, passion, and contribution) and?Triple Crown Leadership: Building Excellent, Ethical, and Enduring Organizations ?(a winner of the International Book Awards). Check out his?Best Articles ?or get his?monthly newsletter . If you found value in this article, please forward it to a friend. Every little bit helps!

(A version of this article first appeared on Gregg Vanourek's blog .)