12 Ways to manage your anger

“Action are controlled by emotions which further leads to reaction”

We are living in a complex environment which is filled with risks and challenges. We have an ability to adapt to the changes quickly and react to conditions. But the problem which I find in us is the emotional changes which happen during the reaction time. Everything what you see around you is not positive. There may be people or situations which are created to let you think in a different perspective which ultimately may lead to a destruction.

Having a solid intention to create a new environment doesn’t always relate to progress. It may have a differential behavioral change on people. Some may take it as a good sign of progress but some may divert away.

Anger – Is it really something to be controlled?

• So, the creation of anger in us is a result of not having a proper intention to do things differently and adapt to situations which may be new for us but may be having a greater skilled approach. This may not be the case always as people would falsely accuse you of something and it may lead you to anger.
• One of the biggest reason to think differently is the attitude in us. Our retort time to state of affairs and the approach both together consists to the attitude in us. If we recognize it as early as possible and apply the positive impacts to the reaction time, I think anger can be controlled.
• Annoyance can be controlled. I think, it is the person’s power to react which determines it. If you have the power to sustain in a multifarious environment as said before by taking the risks associated with it, then I guess it is possible to control the sentiments along with it.

I will give you some basic guidelines to control the fury within you. If you make it a daily practice, you may benefit from it and become a person who people can approach to and seek advice.

1. Keep a distance from people who shout and make noises, may be at work or at home or in your friend’s circle. These people are real problem makers. People think that if they scream and uproar in a conversation, they win, which is wrong.
2. So, this doesn’t mean that you have to be silent always. A person who listen’s and then react wins always.
3. Always understand the situation, how hard it may be. Reaction should be a result not a starter. Some people respond to conditions before a conversation ends and irritates the opposite person. This triggers an anger movement within people.
4. Be in a team which influences you positively. If you cannot find one, it is better to take decisions alone without consultation. I always believe that team work earns the race. It is better to work together for a common goal. But I also recommend to those people who do not find any group which makes a constructive impact on you, it is better to work alone for the objective.
5. If you get negative comments on what you do, kindly do not react. But I would recommend you to stay calm and move along. Your act should speak than your tongue.
6. Tell people who oppose you that you are going to continue in spite of anything others say. At some point, other’s really will stop it as they would find you unharmed and unmoved. You have to realize this moment and start reacting then. That reaction will destroy all the negativity around and your work will be appreciated by others.
7. Speak up at the right time. This advice I would give to all the people out there who are finding it hard to sustain along with seniors and people who are already established. I would say to them to wait and do not lose hope. Your time is coming. If you speak now, others may not listen and may react to situations which may lead you to be livid. But you have to understand each and every word which comes out of others mouth. They will stop at some point of time.
8. If you are really infuriated with people, I would recommend to SMILE. Go to a room, close it and laugh out. Do not let the anger ruin your day.
9. Planning is very important. Plot out each and everything. I know there are some things which may not go according to your disposition. But still you have to do it. This will keep you informed of what the feedback would be throughout the day, which will help you to predict things.
10. I would strongly endorse to devote some time for meditation. Especially early in the morning. Be religiously involved. Take some time to understand your inner passions.
11. You should be able to understand what excites you the most. You success should be exhilarating you each time. More the hard work you put in, the stronger the dreams become.
12. If people let you down and they don’t believe in you, be confident with what you do. Learn continuously from others and do your research. If somebody is not willing to listen to you don’t force him to. Be calm and let the time pass by.