Jordan B. Peterson's book '12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos' explores the individual responsibility we have to ourselves and society. Each rule allows for deep thought on how we are living our lives, the decisions we make and the behaviours we display.
'12 Rules for Life' has been a polarising book since its release. While, I enjoyed this wonderful blend of psychology, philosophy and personal anecdotes some reviews found his book complex and convoluted. Here are my quick thoughts:
- What I loved about this book: the combination of psychology, history, religion, sociaology and more which facilitate deep thinking
- What surprised me about this book: the many references to the Bible
- What chapter I loved the most: Pursue what is meaning, not what is expedient
If you have not read the book, here is my overview for each rule.
- Stand up straight with your shoulders back - this rule talks about the importance of posture, not just physically but also psychologically on how it makes you feel and how it makes you come across to others. There is an interesting analogy with lobsters which is worth a read alone.
- Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping - Here Peterson urges us to take care of ourselves with the same seriousness we take for others, like our elderly parents, children or even dogs. He also explains why this is important and why some people struggle to follow this rule. If you struggle to take care of yourself, then your answer rests in self-compassion and recognising your intrinsic value, helping yourself is a prerequisite to effectively helping others.
- Make friends with people who want the best for you - this one hit home, after all there is that wise parable that states 'show me your friends and I'll show you your future'. This rule is about surrounding yourself with positive influences. True friends encourage and support your betterment, and uplift you even if sometimes this means they may say something that you don't want to hear.
- Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not who who someone else is today - This is something that we all should be shouting at the rooftops, in a society that compares through social media, that can be prone to jealousy the fact is that we do not have the same lives and our focus must be on personal growth and not comparison which can kill our dreams and future. This chapter offers advice on how we can get to know ourselves, be true to ourselves and how we can engage with personal growth.
- Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them - This is a simple rule but a hard one to implement, however, Peterson offers practical ways and examples on how to do this. This chapter has come under controversy especially, from parents who think we should never say 'no' to children, or those who do not think that the only form of discipline is through positive affirmation and encouragement, not punishments.
- Set your house in perfect order before you criticise the world - This rule is more of a call to action. Action to focus on self-examination and having personal responsibility before critiquing systems and others. He argues that self-improvement leads to a more meaningful and impactful existence when we then can make a change in society.
- Pursue what is meaning, not what is expedient - This rule delves into the concept of delayed gratification and the pursuit of long-term goals over immediate pleasures. Peterson argues that true fulfillment comes from engaging in activities that have intrinsic value and contribute to the greater good, rather than those that offer quick and often fleeting satisfaction. He draws on historical examples and personal narratives to illustrate the transformative power of living a purpose-driven life.
- Tell the truth - or, at least, don't lie - Here, Peterson emphasizes the importance of honesty, not just with others but with oneself. He explores the psychological and societal ramifications of deceit, demonstrating how lies, even seemingly harmless ones, can lead to a tangled web of complications and mistrust. This chapter encourages the reader to embrace truth as a foundational principle for a stable and meaningful life.
- Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you don't - This rule is a plea for humility and open-mindedness. Peterson highlights the value of listening and the potential growth that comes from considering perspectives different from our own. By adopting a stance of curiosity rather than defensiveness, we can learn from others and enrich our understanding of the world.
- Be precise in your speech - Precision in communication is the focus of this rule. Peterson argues that clarity in language reflects clarity of thought, and by being meticulous in how we express ourselves, we can avoid misunderstandings and more effectively convey our intentions and desires.
- Do not bother children when they are skateboarding - In this somewhat metaphorical rule, Peterson champions the importance of allowing children, and by extension, people, to take risks and confront challenges. He posits that overprotection stifles development and resilience, advocating instead for a balanced approach that encourages growth through overcoming adversity.
- Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street - The final rule is a poetic invitation to find moments of beauty and connection in everyday life. Peterson uses the simple act of petting a cat as a metaphor for appreciating the small, spontaneous experiences that bring joy and a sense of wonder. This rule serves as a gentle reminder to remain present and open to the unexpected pleasures that life offers.
Each rule in the book serves as a chapter that not only promotes introspection but also challenges one to reflect on their actions, decisions, and underlying motives.
Critics, however, have raised concerns about Peterson's selective use of biblical and mythological narratives to bolster his theories, suggesting a lack of engagement with alternative viewpoints. This critique points to a broader debate in intellectual discourse: the balance between presenting one's theories supported by selected evidence and the need to acknowledge and engage with counterarguments. It raises an important question: Do authors necessarily need to present alternative viewpoints, especially if their primary aim is to articulate and advocate for their own perspective?
Moreover, Peterson's discussions on gender roles and hierarchies have sparked considerable debate. Some critics argue that his views lean towards traditionalism and may not fully align with contemporary understandings of gender and identity, which are increasingly recognized as fluid and complex. However, the presence of traditional perspectives in a discourse does not inherently negate their relevance. It's essential to acknowledge that diverse viewpoints contribute to the richness of societal discussions. Peterson's work, grounded in his interpretations and viewpoints, may not resonate with everyone's lived experiences or beliefs, yet it continues to engage a broad audience in meaningful contemplation about life's complexities.
In summary, "12 Rules for Life" is more than just a self-help book; it is a profound exploration of the human condition. Peterson's ability to interlace various disciplines with practical advice and philosophical insights provides readers with a robust framework for personal development and a deeper understanding of their place in the world.
This is a book that I have enjoyed, one where I have learnt and one I would reccommend to others.
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