12 Reasons Why People Break Relationship Bonds by Adnan Qaiser
1. To Escape the Reality:
Reality bites! A person understands and experiences the rigors and truth about a relationship only after committing itself to a bond. At times, the reality is fearful and frightening, as it turns out to be totally against one’s expectations
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2. To Escape the Intensity of Relationship or Partner:
The “fierceness and severity” of a relationship sometimes becomes too overwhelming, overpowering, or overbearing for a person
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3. To Shy Away from Inner Conflicts:
To escape from one’s own “personality contradictions, insecurities or past traumas”
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4. “The Grass is Greener across the Fence Phenomenon:”
Most of times an escapee doesn’t realize what they “have got” in a relationship. They remain more fixated and preoccupied as to “what others have got” in their companionship. Such a comparison is often based on “false assumptions” and “misplaced perceptions” about others’ personal circumstances and nature of relationships
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5. Personal Priorities and Ambitions:
Sometimes a person finds their goals, concerns, preferences and primary issues in conflict with their partners. Thus, an escape from the connection seems “the only option” to “create one’s “desired world” – which may be for love, sex, a better career, comfort, or luxurious life
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6. Personal Space:
At times a relationship becomes overpowering and suffocating due to lack of availability of “personal space” to breathe and feel one’s own “individuality as a human being.” When your partner “tends to control” each and every matter of your personal life, you wish to break free and run
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7. Geographical Distance:
Another reason for breaking bonds is “long-distance relationships.” Owing to the “lack of physical touch” a person finds nothing “tangible or meaningful” in a relationship, opting to break free
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8. Confusion:
Uncertainty about future or the direction of life often makes a person jump the ship and abandon the journey midway
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9. Infidelity Guilt:
In a few instances, a partner’s “extra-marital or adulterous behavior” leads to personal shame and guilt. Fearing to face the truth, the person chooses to cut-and-run
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10. Restlessness, Anxieties and Desire for More:
A human being is never satisfied with life and always vies for more and more. That leads to one’s anxieties and nervousness in an unending race for personal and material gains
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11. Suspicion:
Doubts, misgivings, and mistrust remain many a “self-created ailments” that have “no remedy.” However, one’s “self-perceived suspicions” about their partner’s love and affection or faithfulness and loyalty destroy a relationship
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12. Substance Abuse:
Drinking and Drugs abuse adversely affects one’s personality in two ways:
a) One, they reduce your objectivity and logical sense for rational decision-making, and
b) Secondly, they “intensify” one’s (hateful) feelings and emotions for their partners
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~ Adnan Qaiser, July 26, 2024 ~