10 Ways to Win People Over with your Way of Thinking

Did you know that 98% of conversations do not end the way we want them to end? It means, only 2% of people have a lasting impression on people they are talking to.?

Isn't it bizarre that most people around do not know how to win people over with a right conversation??

You might have ended up in a conversation with a person with totally different values and morals, leaving you both in a heated argument. This friction, most of the time, causes normal conversations to end up with an unsatisfactory closure. You might feel you could have explained a point better but that realization comes long after your relationship has become sour. The truth is , you will, one way or the other, end up destroying a beautiful relationship with a friend or an office colleague if you turn a conversation into a heated argument.?

In such situations, you need to maintain your calm and have a presence of mind to win the conversation without destroying your relationships.?

Let’s walk through 10 simple ways to win people over with your way of thinking

Ways to Win People Over

• Avoid Arguments

Do you find it difficult to apologize, or let the other person win?

Tony Gaskins has rightly said, “Argument isn’t communication, it’s noise.”

Frankly, if we witness an argument, we’ll realize it’s just two people shouting at each other without any facts involved. We never realize when a small conversation turns into a baseless and factless argument.?

Hence, while talking to someone of distinct perspective, we need to consider stepping in their shoes to understand their thought process. Instead of proving our point, wouldn’t it be better to comprehend the perspective of the person sitting besides us.

There are very few people who can take a step back while proving a point and say “I apologize, you are right.” or “Thank you for educating me.” If you can do it, you will definitely end up the conversation on a good note, leaving a healthy image of yours.?

• Respect Others Opinion

Do you find it hard to accept others' opinions, for you feel too much of yourself?

This question might feel very hard when read at first, but the point is that when we start arguing with the other person we tend to become hard on them, forgetting all the respect we have in our minds.?

For instance, imagine you are talking to your friend and you both decide to visit and eat outside. He says he wants to visit Starbucks, but you want to go to Cafe Coffee Day. Now, instead of discussing the better option, you throw your choice on your friend, not listening to his thoughts about Cafe Coffee Day; how do you think the conversation or the argument will end??

Giving each other a chance to justify your choices might help you come to a better solution. This will help you avoid arguments and respect the choice of the person in front of you.?

When you stay neutral to others' choices and opinions, they tend to listen to you in reverence. This is a positive way of making people go your way forward and not rebel.??

• Accept You are Wrong and Move Forward

When having a conversation with a colleague or a friend, there’s a slight possibility that you might be wrong. What would you do in this case?

The first thing to do is to apologize and move forward. It’s essential to show people that you are genuinely sorry about your mistake. People generally are shy to accept their faults and find excuses to blame others. Self-respect, pride and so-called ego are some of the reasons for people to not accept their faults.?

To win people over with your perspective, it’s essential to feel empathy towards others and when it’s your mistake, apologize and move forward.?

• Be Friendly to Get your Work Done

Have you ever yelled at a co-worker or a friend for some useless work?

Well, getting angry is our first instinct as a human being. However, being angry has never given us what we want. In fact it has mostly ruined relationships at work and in personal life.?

Being friendly with colleagues has always paid off primarily because when you are angry most people go into defensive mode, defending themselves. However, when friendly, the person sitting beside you wants to work for you as a friend. Hence, it has always been said, being friendly at the office has always paid off.?

• Put Forth Questions that Yield Positive Answers

Winning a conversation is as easy as playing Table Tennis. Your throw will define the move of the player in front of you. If you are well aware of the game, you can take it to a winning end; however, if you lose control you might give the winning moment to your friend.?

When starting a conversation, putting up questions that will yield you a positive response, there are 99.999% chances that you will win.?

Have you ever thought about it?

• Be a Good Listener

Are you a good listener or talker?

Being a good listener gives you the chance to know a person inside out. When you listen to your colleagues at the office, empathize with them and agree on their points, they tend to like you more. If you can do this, when you are on the right path of building a rapport with them. This enhances your chances of winning people over. This habit, genuinely, takes you a long way in both professional and personal life.?

• Step into the Shoes of Other to Know their Perspective Well

Honestly understanding a person's point of view pays off well. Instead of focusing on your point of view, focus on comprehending the mindset of your colleague. Once he/she feels you are really trying to understand, they will be more receptive to your ideas in the future. So, rather than throwing your ideas on someone, you’ll be able to convince them easily because you did this as well.

• Being Sympathetic to Others’ Idea Takes a Great Deal of Courage and Patience

Once you understand where the person is coming from and how he/she has developed their ideas, you’ll be more sympathetic towards their ideas. This strengthens one's bond with each other. Once the person in front of you notices this, they will react in a similar manner. Let me warn you though, being sympathetic genuinely requires a great deal of courage and patience.?

Do you feel you are sympathetic towards others’ ideas and perspective?

• An Emotional, Nobler Touch to your Request Always Works

When you are requesting a friend to help you out that has a nobler motive behind it, he/she cannot deny the request, primarily because no one wants to be portrayed in a bad light. Even if the work is difficult or has chances to be caught, if the motive is honest and noble, your colleague can never deny your request.?

Have you thought about this before?

• Dramatize your Ideas

When you dramatize an idea of yours in a meeting, you practically show them what you are thinking going forward. This makes your colleagues understand your perspective better and gives you a chance to stay in people’s minds forever.?

Dramatizing your idea not only helps in evoking people’s thought process, but also gives you a chance to stay in people’s heads for a long long time.?

Have you ever done this before?

Conclusion

To win people over with your way of thinking you need to be an honest listener. Sympathy and empathy should be two of the most essential parts of your character. If you find it difficult, imagine the type of person you want to be friends with, especially in the office. I am sure you'll be able to realize what type of person you need to be to win a conversation not an argument.

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