10 toxic relationship signs that can end any relationship

By: Lachlan Brown

Source: https://hackspirit.com/toxic-relationship-signs/

Relationships take hard work; we’ve all heard it before.

But how do you know when a relationship is just going through a rough patch, or when it’s broken from the inside out?

A toxic relationship can be one of the worst partnerships you may ever experience, and when you find yourself trapped in one, your entire life can go on hold.

In this article, we dissect the toxic relationship – understanding what it is, the top 10 signs of a toxic relationship, why it happens, when to know if you should leave it or fix it, and how to move on even while you are still in love.

What is a Toxic Relationship?

A toxic relationship is described in the name – a relationship that has gone sour.

When a relationship becomes toxic, every interaction in the relationship can feel wrong or out of place, brimming with negative energy that makes both partners uncomfortable, angry, and disappointed.

When a person is trapped in a toxic relationship, they can find it difficult if not impossible to pry themselves out without significant effort. There are a number of reasons for this, such as:

– The relationship was once healthy and happy, and a part of you still sees it that way, even if most of it has become toxic

– You do not want to believe that the person you loved has become a source of negative energy for you

– You do not want to believe that you have become trapped in a relationship, as you might feel that you are too emotionally mature to fall into something like that

But even the best relationships can fall into toxic tendencies until the relationship itself becomes a toxic breeding pool of negative energy.

Habits that might have been considered cute quirks in the past might now seem like the most annoying things in the world, and attempts to fix the relationship can be misinterpreted as passive-aggressive energy.

Healthy RelationshipsToxic RelationshipsCompassion, respectfulness, freedom of thought, listening, security, caring, safety, mutual love, healthy disagreements, sharing Insecurity, jealousy, negativity, power abuse, distrust, demeaning attitudes, unnecessary comments, selfishness, demandingness, excessive criticism, self-centeredness

When you find yourself in a toxic relationship or suspect that you might possibly be in a toxic relationship, it is time to understand it – then fix it or leave.

10 Top Signs of a Toxic Relationship

Do you believe that you might be in a toxic relationship? Here are the 10 most common signs of toxicity in relationships:

1. Mutual Avoidance

You used to love spending time together, but now you think of any reason to avoid each other. You sigh in relief when your partner has to go out of town for a few days.

2. Continuous Self-Betrayal

You have opinions and likes and dislikes, but you find yourself constantly doing something other than what you feel is right, just to please your partner, because you do not want to make them unhappy.

3. Lack of Autonomy

You have lost your identity, and with that, you lost your self-worth. You don’t remember the last time you made a decision that was just up to you. Your entire life is now a “we”.

4. Little White Lies

Your relationship has become peppered with little white lies, simply because you don’t want to waste time explaining the truth, and also because you just don’t want to tell the truth.

5. Nothing You Do Is Right

There is criticism about everything. Every time you do something, they always have a comment about what you did wrong or how you could have done it better. They don’t know how to appreciate you anymore.

If you’re seeing this symptom, or some of the others I mention in this article, it doesn’t necessarily mean your partner doesn’t love you. However, you do need to start taking action to stop the degradation of your relationship.

Watch this video right now to learn about 3 techniques that will help you repair your relationship (even if your partner isn’t interested at the moment).

6. Unhappiness

You are just generally unhappy and negative. When they enter the room, your first thought is, “God, what now?”

7. A Partner of Victimhood

Maybe you and your partner have gone through some rough times and you’re trying to move on, but you can’t, because they keep referring to the past, painting themselves as the victim. The effort to be better is just one-way.

8. Envy and Jealousy

Instead of celebrating you for your personal awards and achievements, they only take away envy and jealousy, wishing they could have it and making you feel bad for it.

9. Endless Drama

No matter how plain and simple your life might be, your partner always magically finds a way to stir up some new drama.

10. Persistent Disrespect

Your partner actively disrespects you in ways that are absolutely unnecessary, even when no fight is occurring.

If you still aren’t certain that you are trapped in a toxic relationship, just ask yourself the following questions:

1) Is your partner happy with who you are, or do you have to constantly be a different “you” to make them happy?

2) Is your “give and take” equal, or is one person putting or taking more?

3) Do you feel better or worse about who you are after you spend time with your partner?

4) Do you have more moments of anger and drama, or more moments of contentment and happiness?

5) Do you generally feel drained or energized when you are with your partner?