10 Signs I am Experiencing Envy
Why do we need to talk about envy?
The definition of envy is the angry feeling that another person possesses and enjoys something else desirable, often accompanied by an impulse to take it away or spoil it.
Two reason we need to talk about this in this space.
Firstly, it is the biggest thief of JOY and when our joy tank is empty it effects more than just our workplaces. Taking a significant toll on your physical and mental health.
The second reason is because it is closely connected to self sabotage , one of the ways we deliberately hinder our own success.?
Which often stops us asking for help and depletes drive or motivation, leaving us sad, anxious, and often disconnected from others.
By no means, do I EVER want to minimise some of the disparities and inequalities experienced by marginalised communities because they are very real!
Tori Bowie the US athlete recently died eight months pregnant, at the time of her death.
Maternal mortality for Black women is currently almost four times higher than for White women. Significant disparities also exist for women of Asian and mixed ethnicity. It's life threatening!
I think there is a heightened sense of envy or anger, when you are consistency treated unfairly or have to overcome challenges you did not create.
As a black women, I am often envious of colleagues, who complain and are taken seriously and when I say something similar it has to be justified. It's like I am not taken seriously, which enrages me!
This perhaps acts as a buffer or defence to lessen the impact on your self worth and confidence.
10 Signs I am Experiencing Envy
I think envy is a completely normal human response and we all experience it at times.?
If you reckon you haven't you are lying.....
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So, don’t feel any shame or be alarmed if you tick off more than a few of these boxes;
What Next?
I think we need to acknowledge and name envy to reduce self sabotaging behaviours and minimise our chances of being derailed when under pressure.
Coping is what people do to reduce the stress caused by an adverse event or situation. But, we have to move beyond this because it is depleting our joy and is completely exhausting your energy.
If you want to show up more authentically or increase your impact across your spheres of influence. You have to create some space.....
I encourage you consider how envy shows up for you, skipping it will only keep you stuck in repetitive destructive behaviour patterns and deprive you of some of your greatest breakthroughs!
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1 年Great discussion Marteka Swaby ! I believe that when we can bare the truth of our feelings to first ourselves and then others we open pathways to understanding, support and healing that can gave far-reaching positive consequences at home, in the workplace and in communities.
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1 年Marteka Swaby, this piece is so needed. Thanks for raising the issue of envy. Wasn't Mandela who said, 'Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.' Keep up the good work! ????
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1 年It’s like saying love thy neighbor but people don’t understand the point in that. Why do this if the other person doesn’t understand why they should do it. Can we help others understand the value in love and kindness instead of being envy
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1 年Really interesting talking point Marteka Something that’s been in humans awareness from times of old, right? “Tho shalt not covet thy neighbours (X)” Cultivatatimg a spirit of gratitude, compassion and respect guides me to circumnavigate envy and anger (most of the time) That stat about maternal mortality is deeply disturbing ??