10 Rules for Success: Deeper Dive into Rule #2: How to Find What You Are Truly Passionate About in Life
9 exercises that could help you find your true passion in life.
1. Ask yourself these three simple questions
Finding your passion could be easier than you think. By answering these questions honestly, you could work out what to do with the rest of your life.
- What subject could I read 500 books about without getting bored?
- What could I do for five years straight without getting paid?
- What could I spend my time doing if I had complete financial abundance to do anything?
2. Don't presume that your passion should be your job
Hunter S. Thompson, the gonzo journalist and novelist, once said: "Anything that gets your blood racing is probably worth doing."
There are a lot of things worth doing that will never bring you money. You don't have to be great at something to be passionate about it.
If you can't imagine not doing something, it's a passion. It doesn't have to be a moneymaker. Make your money some way that will give you the time for what you really love to do.
3. Work out what you hate doing
List the jobs or tasks that you absolutely despise doing. Once you have eliminated these options, your true passion may become clearer. Creating a list of the people you are jealous of or who annoy you to get more clarity on the issue.
Ask this question: who do I envy the most due to the work they do? List multiple individuals, then look at the work they do, and try those things. You might find your passion from that list.
4. Find the things you are mediocre at
Even if they don't possess exceptional skills at any one thing, most people have lots of specialisms that they are "okay" at.
If you blend your mediocre skills together, you'll find your passion. Say you’re an average artist, with a decent sense of humor, you won’t have much hope with an art degree, and you can’t study ‘humor’ as a subject. But you could be an awesome cartoonist.
Or, take an average business student, with some programming ability, and decent sales skills. That person is surprisingly well suited to become the boss of others who were better than them in any one of those areas.
The most successful people, the ones that are most passionate about their work, are almost never defined by a single skill. They are a fusion of skills, often not even exceptional skills, but they’ve made their fusion exceptional.
Steve Jobs was not the world’s greatest engineer, salesperson, designer or businessman. But he was uniquely good enough at all of these things, and wove them together into something far greater.
5. Forget the 'AHA!' moment
Inspiration may strike some people in an instant. Suddenly, they know what they should be doing with their lives. For others, it takes work.
Spend 20 minutes each day thinking about the things that have interested you recently, or any opportunities that you have spotted. Your true passion is not found overnight, but is realized through series of discoveries of small interests.
Try asking close friends and family what they think you should be doing with your life. But don't put people on the spot, as they may rush their answers. If any of your nearest and dearest have hobbies or passions that interest you, ask to spend some time helping out, or giving them a try. Experiment with new activities, whether it's a new sport, learning a language, or trying a craft, as much as possible.
6. Remember what you loved doing as a child
Did you love to draw or write stories when you were young? Try to remember the activities that you enjoyed during your childhood, before the pressure to study the right subjects or get a good job began to mount.
What hobbies did you enjoy doing before life got in the way? Would you enjoy those activities now? Use these memories to help you find your true passion as an adult.
Perhaps you still have hobbies now. Could you expand on them so they take more of a centre stage in your life?
Or, take a new perspective: imagine that you are very old. What do you wish you had spent the last 20 to 30 years doing? Think of it as a slightly less gloomy version of writing your own obituary.
7. Create something brand new
The secret to finding your passion is to create something new. People tend to be instantly passionate about projects, businesses or services that they start from scratch.
When you create something new, you’re inventing something to be passionate about. Whether you design novelty cushions, or write Batman stories, or start a Twitter account dedicated to fact-checking politicians.
However, success is key to finding one's true passion. If your new LinkedIn account only has five followers after a year, you probably won’t be too passionate about it. If you had 5m, you’d have quit your job. You must find success to fuel your passion.
8. See your passion hunt as a fun, joyful adventure
People put too much pressure on themselves to find their passion. It’s critically important to discover and engage in things that light you up, but it’s just as important to cultivate an un-serious child-like attitude of play, wonder and adventure.
When you deliberately open yourself to noticing things you might enjoy doing, don’t be afraid of getting it wrong. It’s all an adventure, you’re learning and growing as you go. Happiness research shows that trying new things increases dopamine levels in the brain, contributing to sustained levels of contentment. So try away!
Notice what you love. Notice what makes you feel like a kid. Notice what you long to have more time for.
9. Try visualization
Imagine yourself getting up early, jumping out of bed, excited about going to work. You get dressed quickly, full of enthusiasm about your day. The sun is shining and you take those first steps out of your bedroom. Now work out where you are going and what kind of job follows on from that feeling of anticipation.
So, if you’re struggling to find your passion, even after trying what feels like you are doing everything, I encourage you to do this: sit down, open your journal, pour a cup of tea, and try to remember your passions.
Think back on your life, and remember things you wanted to be, the habits you developed naturally, the games you played, the books you read, and see how they may apply to your life and career today. You might be surprised by the connection points that have been right under your nose all along.
“Chase your passion, not your pension.” Denis Waitley
Do you know your TRUE passion?