1-Minute Wednesday No. 192: Embrace Vulnerability
Design A Life That Really Matters
Human children are vulnerable longer than any species in the world.?
Think about a newborn baby—how vulnerable and helpless they are. The only way they can communicate their needs is to cry out—to be heard. From the very beginning and for a very long time all of our needs are met by others.
But this state of constant vulnerability may be a feature, not a bug.?
Vulnerability teaches us to rely on others, to be interconnected, to work together for our mutual survival. It underscores our need for secure connections.
Once you and others mutually understand that secure connection?is?the goal, everything changes because you know this is the target.?
For example, while my wife Anna and I have always communicated well, our relationship and ability to communicate reached a new level once our goal of a secure connection was clearly stated.?
I've gone from quickly feeling defensive in an argument or disagreement to hardly feeling defensive in any situation because I know the target.
When we are vulnerable with one another, we share our most basic humanness. And isn't that what we need more of? What we are all longing for?
In a chaotic world, vulnerability may seem like a dangerous choice. But when vulnerability is met with secure connection, we create the relationships that provide?stability in our ever-changing world.? ?
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“There can be no vulnerability without risk; there can be no community without vulnerability; there can be no peace, and ultimately no life, without community.”?? –? M. Scott Peck
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Empowering Growth Through Effective Training | Soft Skills & Behavioural Facilitator & Training Content Creator
8 个月What a fantastic write-up on Vulnerability. It is soo essential to understand and practice this in today's world. Thank you so much for such an insightful article. BIG FAN of your work Sir Greg McKeown
Global Sales Training and Coaching Manager
8 个月There is so much power in embracing vulnerability. Which seems like it wouldn't be true.. but it's that connection that comes from giving others space to be vulnerable and authentic and bands people and their skills together to make something even greater. You have to replenish control of what people can do with the information you're being vulnerable about in order to connect and grow stronger together.
Professional Coach | Zen Teacher | Empowering High Achievers to Navigate Transition, Achieve Balance, and Find True Fulfillment with Zen
8 个月So true, embracing vulnerability really does pave the way for meaningful connections.
Growing B2B & Tech Brands on Social Media | Founder, Venture Media
8 个月Absolutely! Embracing vulnerability amidst chaos can indeed feel daunting. However, it's crucial to recognize that vulnerability is not weakness but rather a courageous step towards authentic connection. Seek out those who offer genuine support and understanding, as they provide the foundation for stability amidst life's uncertainties.