The # 1 Key To Change Someone's Behaviour And Make the New Behaviour Last

Last week, I wrote about the single most important skill in life, career and business, which is INFLUENCE.?

Today, I'd like to show you the # 1 Key to Change someone's behaviour, and make the New Behaviour last using the power of influence.

Let's set the stage…

Sometimes back, I was working with this learning institution when a group of 3 young adults decided to violate the institution's code of conduct--outrightly exemplifying unbecoming behaviour.

So gross was the violation--which included sneaking in and using prohibited items in this institution–that the whole case had to be handled by the top management of the institution.

The meeting in an attempt to get to the bottom of their behaviour and correct it didn't go well. They not only defied all correction attempts but they outrightly defied directives which required them to submit the prohibited items they had sneaked into the institution.?

In fact, in that meeting,? they said they won't!

If you were the one dealing with them in that meeting, what would you do?

At this point, there were 2 choices to go with.

● Choice? # 1: Dismiss or expel them?

● Choice? # 2: Retain them and risk them influencing the rest with such not so good? behaviour.

And what would be the results of that??

Well, that would depend on how you look at it.

From a parental perspective whose job is to help transform and shape these young adults; that would mean failure because the young adults would leave, not having changed, and would probably get involved in other gross behavioural misconduct and end up in jail or rehab.

From a business-person perspective, think of these young adults as customers. Expelling–rather than finding a way to get them to change–would mean losing "customers". Even more, they would go and spread a "false bad reputation" about the institution and that would keep other "potential customers" from becoming customers.

So, the management decided to take none of the above? choices.

For some reasons, I was asked to look into the issue. Clearly understanding its severity, I said "Okay. I shall look into it."

2 days later, we sat in my office with each of these young adults.

My goal in this meeting was one: Change and Transform their behaviour, not just temporarily, but create a lasting change in their behaviour.?

Here's the # 1 Key To Change someone's behaviour and make the new behaviour last.

If you want to change someone's behaviour and have the new behaviour last, you can't do that by "Telling Them To Change".

The only way to get people to change their behaviour is by INFLUENCING THEM so they WANT to CHANGE by themselves. If they do, the change will last!

In just 1:30 hours with each one of them, I drastically and completely changed their behaviour using a few psychological principles and the Single most powerful Tool of Influence, all of which I shall share in the part 2 of this material.

In part 2, I shall:

● Show you the exact Powerful Tool of Influence I used to drastically change their behaviour in less than 2 hours? and got them to completely own the new behaviour they developed and felt proud of themselves.?

● Show you the conversation we had with the one who was the most "hard-to-change" and who had outrightly defied the directives to submit prohibited items she had illegally sneaked into the institution.?

I'll not just show you the Powerful Tool I used and the conversation we had; but I will got an extra mile to deconstruct the entire conversation, and step-by-step…

● Show you the psychological principles I was using in that conversation to make the shift in their behaviour.

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