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When the Heart Doesn’t "Flutter": How Childhood Shapes Attraction Recently, I came across a post from someone who shared, “I went on a date; she was a 10 out of 10, but nothing ‘fluttered’ inside.” This made me wonder: how can someone be a “10 out of 10” and still not make your heart skip a beat? So, I started digging into this. Interestingly, this idea of a "flutter" or feeling a spark often stems from childhood. We all carry certain images or ideals of what’s "good" or "perfect," and we tend to search for someone who matches that internal picture. These ideals often reflect unmet needs or desires from our early years. For example, let’s say a girl grew up with a father who was kind but sometimes perceived as gentle or unable to protect her in certain situations. As she grows up, she may be drawn to strong men, the opposite of her father, seeking someone she believes can offer the protection she once felt she lacked. In her mind, strength becomes a desirable quality, something good. So, when she meets a strong man, her heart “flutters,” because he aligns with her inner image of an ideal partner. In my own experience, I watched many American movies growing up. I became attached to the image of a typical "European-looking" family with children and a dog, which seemed like the epitome of happiness. Because of this, I often felt drawn to men who fit that look, unconsciously associating it with happiness. So, if you feel nothing inside, even if someone seems “perfect,” it could mean that the person doesn’t align with the image you've built in your mind. While these ideals may limit our choices, they also speak to our core needs and desires.

Why I hang up on people I don’t know? ? It’s not because I’m rude. It’s because they want something valuable; my time. And I believe in protecting it. ? Time is one of the most important things we have, so why give it away. ? At the end of the day, very few people genuinely care about your happiness. And let’s be honest, those people aren’t the ones trying to sell you things. ? I’m all about kindness and respect, but I also believe in setting boundaries when it comes to my time. ? How do you handle people trying to sell you things? Do you entertain their calls, emails, or DMs? Or are you like me?

If you want to redefine your happiness, that Big Picture view of the life you’ve envisioned for yourself, you must challenge and change your thinking. It starts/stops with you. PERIOD!!! Go and find a peaceful, quiet place. Somewhere you will not be disturbed. Be still and relax your mind as you begin a deep inquiry of questions that ONLY YOU can answer. It will help you create the BIG PICTURE thinking bringing 2024 Clarity ?? on your personal priorities. Your imagination’s answer will end when you’re finish writing it.?? 1. How would I live this day we’re it my last day on Earth? 2. What would I like my friends to speak about me at your funeral? 3. What would I like my work colleagues or employees to speak about me at my funeral? 4. What would I like my closest family member to speak about me at my funeral? These answers are YOUR INTENTIONS! Or shall I say the calling on your life??????

How many cars are enough? When will you run out of the need for one more, a bigger, a better, more expensive mean machine? When you run out of fuel or you lose the drive? Or when you realise that all these years you were only driven by a belief that the more you have, the more you will be loved? How many awards are enough? One for every role you play in your life, for every thought you have, for every body part you nourish, for every transactional relationship you nurture? When will you realise that maybe the need for these awards and validation comes from an unmet need and a detached caregiver who was critical of every action of yours and there was never a pat on the back. So you started looking for those pats from the world outside of you and your home. How many relationships are enough? Where does the need to attract unavailable partners come from? Where does the need to look for bits and pieces in multiple relationships come from thinking that those bits will complete you? Where does the need for always being hard on yourself come from? Where does the need to go beyond your comfortable zone to take on more than you can handle come from? How many homes are enough? How many accolades are enough? How many yes men and women in your coterie are enough? How many hours at work are enough for you to feel worthy of yourself? How much of micromanaging and control of every outcome is enough? How much of people pleasing is enough for you to feel loved, wanted and heard? Nothing is ever enough outside of us. Whatever we achieve, collect, hoard or accumulate, there will always be a need for more. Go deep inside yourself and find where the need for this endless need came from? What happened way back in time that you were made to believe that happiness is outside of you, that love is more pure on the outside, that unlimited wonder is less joyful and meaningful than limited rewards. And as you go on this wild ride, do keep an eye out for everything you feel you have enough of inside you that you fail to see. Magic, miracles, faith, belief, the infinite power to rewrite our stories and give meaning to our suffering. You are a million times enough. Just look inside.

"It's time to stop explaining ourselves to others. How many times have we let ourselves be swept away by the stream of justification and explanation, only to realize that in the end, these things do not change the sense of inner conflict we feel? Remember: you do not owe anyone explanations, life is yours and not theirs . Each of us encounters moments when we feel the need to justify our choices, decisions or even feelings to others. But the truth is that every time we do this, we lose a small part of our autonomy over our lives. These justifications not only do not add up, they often lead to a feeling of dissatisfaction and even a negative self-image. The time we live in is limited, and it is up to us to choose how we spend it. Do we really want to waste it on social pressure, worrying about what others will think or say about us? Or maybe this time can be used for internal growth, personal development and the fulfillment of our goals? Let's learn to live according to our principles and values, and not as others expect us to. This does not mean that we should not listen or consider others, but that our decisions and the way we choose to live our lives should be based on what is right and appropriate for us, and not on what is perceived as right in someone else's eyes. Remember, in the end, our happiness is tel

How many cars are enough? When will you run out of the need for one more, a bigger, a better, more expensive mean machine? When you run out of fuel or you lose the drive? Or when you realise that all these years you were only driven by a belief that the more you have, the more you will be loved? How many awards are enough? One for every role you play in your life, for every thought you have, for every body part you nourish, for every transactional relationship you nurture? When will you realise that maybe the need for these awards and validation comes from an unmet need and a detached caregiver who was critical of every action of yours and there was never a pat on the back. So you started looking for those pats from the world outside of you and your home. How many relationships are enough? Where does the need to attract unavailable partners come from? Where does the need to look for bits and pieces in multiple relationships come from thinking that those bits will complete you? Where does the need for always being hard on yourself come from? Where does the need to go beyond your comfortable zone to take on more than you can handle come from? How many homes are enough? How many accolades are enough? How many yes men and women in your coterie are enough? How many hours at work are enough for you to feel worthy of yourself? How much of micromanaging and control of every outcome is enough? How much of people pleasing is enough for you to feel loved, wanted and heard? Nothing is ever enough outside of us. Whatever we achieve, collect, hoard or accumulate, there will always be a need for more. Go deep inside yourself and find where the need for this endless need came from? What happened way back in time that you were made to believe that happiness is outside of you, that love is more pure on the outside, that unlimited wonder is less joyful and meaningful than limited rewards. And as you go on this wild ride, do keep an eye out for everything you feel you have enough of inside you that you fail to see. Magic, miracles, faith, belief, the infinite power to rewrite our stories and give meaning to our suffering. You are a million times enough. Just look inside.

When the rain stops, the umbrella becomes a burden. When the ink runs out, the pen finds its way to the trash. The flower gifted by a loved one wilts, and the next day, it too ends up in the dustbin. This is one of life's cruelest truths: people don't remember your kindness for long. How long you remain important to someone depends entirely on how long you can continue to offer them something. Whether you accept it or not, this is the undeniable truth. The newspaper you buy today for 10 taka is worth the same 10 taka per kilogram the next day. The textbooks you once cherished, spending thousands on, are sold by weight at the end of the year. As time fades, so does the value of everyone and everything. We are, at our core, selfish beings. Even when giving a beggar 2 taka, we stop to calculate how much merit we’ll gain. No one gives without expecting something in return. Yet, despite this harsh reality, let us choose to be kind. Let us speak with a smile. Let us tame our anger and bury our pride. If you truly want to find happiness, lower your expectations. If you’ve done something for someone, forget it completely. As long as you hold onto that memory, it will only breed arrogance in your heart. But if someone has done even the smallest thing for you, treasure it forever. That memory will keep you humble, grateful, and a better human being.

?? Happy Morning! ?? No matter how much we grow, there’s always an innocent child within each of us. Beneath all our responsibilities and experiences, that inner child doesn’t seek pampering or approval; it simply craves attention, joy, and connection. Yet as we age, logic steps in, dampening our spontaneity. Our emotions often hold us back, cautious and restrained. What if, instead of choosing between heart and mind, we allowed ourselves to embrace that childlike wonder? Engaging in small, playful activities can revive our spirits, bringing us freedom, joy, and a sense of selfless love that lights up the world around us. True happiness lies in reconnecting with this part of ourselves. Let’s allow ourselves to laugh, play, and rediscover life with a fresh perspective. ?? Embrace wonder. Spread joy. Brighten lives. ?? #InnerChild #JoyfulLiving #EmbraceWonder #HappyMorning #PersonalGrowth #SpreadingLight List of the activities to keep live your inner innocent child. List of activities to keep live you inner innocent child. 1. Drawing or Coloring 2. Dance Freely 3. Play Games 4. Spend Time Outdoors 5. Try Something New 6. Build Something 7. Watch a Cartoon or Read a Comic 8. Blow Bubbles or Fly a Kite 9. Write a Letter to Your Younger Self 10. Go Barefoot 11. Sing Loudly 12. Visit an Amusement Park or Zoo 13. Play with Animals 14. Tell Stories or Daydream 15. Try Meditation for Playfulness