Don’t just push through

You may have noticed a theme coming through from me in the last couple of weeks. It’s really in response to conversations I’m having in the coaching room that people are seriously feeling the pressure already running into Christmas. ??

Pressure to get things done but there isn’t enough time.?? ?

Pressure to perform as the market tightens.?? ?

Pressure on personal finances and the cost of living.?? ?

And what I’m observing happens when this pressure is on is, people get down in the weeds trying to fix and control everything. When we do this, we start to lose sight of our bigger goals and priorities, and we often lose momentum and get off track.?? ?

So I wanted to invite you to take a moment to pause and reflect on some of the questions below so that you can get yourself out of the weeds and back up onto the balcony view of your life. So, you can start saying YES to the opportunities that will allow you to finish this year strong. ?? ?

It can be tempting to put your head down and just push through until you get some time off. But I want to play coach Clare again as I do with my coaching clients and challenge you to be strategic, to really think about what you are doing, the example you are setting for your team and reinstate some boundaries so that you aren’t on the brink of burnout when December comes.?

Questions To Ask Yourself To Practice Saying No and get focused on the right things: ??

1. Does this align with my goals right now???? This question requires you to be really clear and focused on what is a priority right now and what isn’t. Remember everything that you say yes to that eats into your time or mental capacity is saying no to something else. You want to be embracing the things that lead you towards your goals and saying no to things that pull your energy or attention away from them. ?? ?
2. Is it possible to get back to this at a better time??? Understanding how your priorities and goals change over time is an important skill to develop. Knowing when you have space in your schedule to explore new avenues and opportunities is important too. If you have to say no to something this week but you have time in 2 weeks' time, then see if things can be rescheduled so that it’s a win-win for everyone. ?? ?
3. What am I worried is going to happen if I say no???? Many of us have been societally conditioned to say yes to people-please. However, noticing what the underlying thoughts are when we hesitate on saying no helps us pinpoint what we really need to work on. Are you worried you won’t be seen as capable if you say no? Are you worried that someone won’t like you if you say no? Are you worried you will lose the opportunity if you say no? Once you have the answer, it allows you the opportunity to do the deep work and start clearing the blockages that are keeping you stuck, overwhelmed and worried about the future. ?

2 Things That Are Going On In The Clarety Office:?

1. UPCOMING MASTERCLASS! Speaking of finishing the year strong, I’m getting really excited to announce our latest masterclass! In it I’ll be sharing the system I use with my coaching clients that has created so many ‘penny drop’ moments about how to step off the cycle of busy and set yourself up for success in the final quarter of 2023. It’s 60mins on the 10th of November to cover everything you need to FINISH THE YEAR STRONG, register early to secure your spot and mark down the dates in your calendar! REGISTER HERE .? ?
2. Need help getting your team ready to finish the year strong and then rest hard? We have one or two dates left to run end-of-year offsites in November and December so if you are thinking of getting your team together for a fun and inspiring time that can help level-up their performance, I’d love to help!. DM me with the word TEAM and we’ll chat.?

One Thing To Listen To This Week

I’m still reflecting on a wonderful Luminous Coffee Conversation earlier this month with a brilliant bunch of senior leaders who had come together to talk about purpose. What it is. Why it can be challenging to find and maintain and how to start connecting with greater purpose day to day.?So, if you have found yourself stuck in the weeds and in need of some inspiration then you are so welcome to grab the mini relay of this session. In it you will get chance to discover the:

4-Keys to developing greater clarity on your purpose?

1. Life Lessons: Reflecting on the adversities and challenges that have shaped your leadership journey and how they can serve as a source of wisdom to inspire others.?
2. Personal Development: Identifying your unique strengths and the passions that fuel your spirit, which can lead you toward a purpose-driven leadership legacy.?
3. Mindfulness: Practicing the art of being present, allowing you to recognize the moments of profound connection and purpose within your leadership.?
4. Focus: Navigating your daily roles, responsibilities, and decisions to harmonize with your evolving understanding of purpose, both for yourself and those you lead.?

Just reach out to us to grab the mini replay of the session where I expand on these points using personal examples of hard-fought lessons and insights that have led me to my purpose today – helping leaders and their teams become more luminous in their work and life…?