If you celebrated Thanksgiving this past weekend, you likely observed that most people tend to talk at you, not to you... draining your battery like a phone toasting in the sun. And if you read that and thought, "hmm, I didn't notice that..." well, you're likely one of those people -- sometimes known as "a talker." So with more holidays on the horizon, here's a quick, "How to not talk at someone, Turkey edition." 1. ?? Before a chat, think of 1 thing you want to learn from the other person or ask them about. 2.??Actually listen to what they have to say. The only way this works is if there's something you genuinely want to learn or hear about from them. And if you don't actually care, at least toss in a few head nods and a clarifying question. 3.?If while speaking, you realize the other person didn't ask you a question, you're likely talking at them and they're likely looking for a way out of the convo. Wrap up what you're saying and give a pause -- if they say something like, "that's great," you've been talking at them big time. TL:DR 1. Be curious about something 2. Actually listen 3. Be self-aware of rambling Anyone else make a similar observation during Thanksgiving?
Love this Josh!
Very helpful
Noted!!!
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3 个月A bit of a 'who can be the loudest person in the room,' for sure. This is great advice! I really like the first point of what can I learn from them. Definitely making a list for Christmas.