You are as Sick as Your Secrets! ( This is from Benjamin Hardy)

Addiction expert and founder of Genius Recovery, Joe Polish, often says, “A person is as sick as their secrets.”

In the book, THE BODY KEEPS THE SCORE, Bessel van der Kolk M.D. explains that traumatic experiences halt or “freeze” a person’s development. When a person experiences trauma, they usually keep their pain to themselves. Very rarely do they open up and share what they’re going through.

As a result, their pain gets suppressed. Hence, Dr. Gabor Maté explained in a recent interview with Tim Ferriss, “Trauma isn’t what happens to you, it’s what happens inside you.”

Trauma isn’t necessarily caused by tough experiences. It’s caused by keeping those experiences and the pain or confusion of those experiences to yourself. It’s caused by fighting silent battles. It’s caused by trying to go at it alone.

Addiction therapist and researcher, Arnold M. Washton, Ph.D. said, “Many people think that what the addict needs is willpower, but nothing could be further from the truth.”

Willpower is focused on the self. You can’t overcome an addiction on your own. As Johann Hari explains in his famous TED TALK, the only way out of addiction is through connecting with other people.

This was taken from : https://medium.com/personal-growth/you-can-never-change-your-life-through-willpower-heres-what-actually-works-928a562db627?inf_contact_key=cffe9f2833f45bbc49552c9b4a306845dfcd8d90470bd60a24911985fc24127b