Dealing with grudges at work

“We have a tendency to minimize the pain we’ve caused others in life and maximize the pain others have caused us,” he says. “There certainly could be people out there holding grudges against us. The problem is we become so self-centered when we’re holding grudges that we fail to see that we also have impacted other people.”

While the steps seem so simple and straightforward, it can be one of the hardest, most daunting things to do in the workplace. Recently I successfully worked through these steps and came out of the situation more confident and understood. Cool your jets, give it a couple days, then talk.

Good article. Great coping mechanisms. We’ve all been there. #coping

A worthwhile read. As a plant leader, I spend a considerable amount of my time navigating the relationships of others. I often believe if people had better tools for interpersonal communication we would have far as conflict. Remember, the rule isn't to treat others how you want to be treated but rather how they want to be treated. https://lnkd.in/g9chuCw

It’s human nature to get annoyed over some slight or other, but when does it turn into a grudge? I believe an issue turns into a grudge when it sticks around (you’re still annoyed over something that happened last month); when it changes how you would ordinarily behave towards someone and when there’s a feeling of wanting to ‘get back’ at that person/situation. But it’s all just noise really, a distraction. A client was telling me recently about someone she felt was trying to derail her business, he was doing this, he was doing that. It’s just noise, we have to let these things go if we want to stay on track with our goals and desire to do a good job. What’s the alternative? To put all our energy into righting the wrong and going over and over how we were mistreated? So here are some ideas of how to move on and ‘let it go’. #grudge #leadershipdevelopment #leadership #management #teamwork