Reflections on 39 Years of Sobriety
Today marks my sobriety birthday.
Yes, the day after Valentine's Day, and yes, there was a woman (or the break-up from a woman - I was feeling sorry for myself) involved…
I’d most likely be dead if I didn’t get sober.
I was that kind of a drinker/drug user.
The best man at my wedding died of an overdose, if that gives you a clear picture.
But you’ll find no drunkalogue here.
The life and the gift I have been given have been and continue to be beyond my wildest dreams.
It was hard at the beginning, but it was not that hard compared to using.
I was blessed early on to be surrounded by a group of people who had traveled the same road, and they just wrapped me up in their love.
I can’t describe it any other way.
Hugs, not Drugs, was popular and accepted in the 1980s, and I honestly craved all those hugs… they helped heal me.
There was continued selfishness on my part for a lot of my recovery (which got me nowhere).
But in the last decade, the gift of helping people overcome their addictions and building online systems to help lots more - has fundamentally changed me as a person.
While fragmented, dispart, and in no way connected, the recovery community is the world's largest and best self-help group.
It could already be the largest health network in the world.
If all of the non-profit, for-profit, city, state, national, international recovery, and 12-Step groups and organizations on the planet were ever to combine forces…
We could change the world.
Quickly and definitely.
For sure, we could change the 100,000 plus overdose deaths in the United States yearly.
Anonymity is no longer needed.
What IS needed is a new version of Unity and Recovering Outloud.
Peers helping Peers.
I think we have all been a touch brainwashed by the 12-step ethos of anonymity and “having no leaders.”?
…And by the continuing ridiculous stigma that still follows people in recovery - that is now hampering the peer-reviewed scientific progress forward.
If I knew exactly what was needed, I would say it here. But the Internet will play a huge part in this upcoming transformation.
My mentor and likely one of the most prolific writers on recovery in human history, William White, and I wrote an article in April 2018 predicting and projecting some of the possibilities for the future.
https://lnkd.in/gfAqVGJ2
The pandemic accelerated our predictions by at least a decade, but it’s still not enough…
It’s just the beginning.
If anyone who feels like I do wants to chat about all this, my DM’s are open.
Here’s hoping we can continue the amazing path of people helping people peers helping peers, but take it to the next level.