Supporting leaders to navigate change, communicate more effectively and decipher conflict. Diana champions her clients to move toward their professional goals while aligning more closely with their personal values. Clients include leaders at Fortune 500 companies, film & television executives and artists.
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My newsletter from a couple of weeks ago highlighting my experience as a young professional shipped to Italy to work on the internationally acclaimed film Il Postino. Back in the '90's, it was trial by fire!
There are times in life when we feel like we don't have the choice to lead. In my opinion, there's always a choice.
This is a story about control. Your control. Control of what you say. Control of what you do. Last month, I facilitated a conversation with four leaders. The invitation was sent only to people whom I have experienced as solution-oriented, expansive thinkers that are willing to share about their challenges and support their peers in slowing down and exploring their own issues. Each challenge and perspective was unique, and distinct themes became apparent to me with the most prominent being control. As the participants shared about their seemingly impossible situations, a significant piece of their story was about control being out of reach, in ways both big and small.? ?Adverse shifts in company ethos ?Complex logistics of a company move that could impact both customer loyalty and budgetary limits ?Driving change among leadership ?External factors influencing the direction of business growth Once the group shared about the current state of their potentially insurmountable issues, they each explored how they had attempted to address the challenge thus far and what the desired outcome would be if the issue was resolved. To quote another Jackson, “No message could’ve been any clearer.” Changes had to be made within themselves and how they were relating to their issues before these leaders could better identify what they were able to control and influence externally. In your case, control and influence could start to look something like this: ? Reflect honestly on your response to an unfavorable cultural shift within your organization, identify your internal reaction and consider others’ perspectives. ?With empathy for others and a focus on company objectives, make clear requests and establish agreements aimed at addressing concerns for everyone involved. ?Until you’re ready to decide whether to pursue new methods for expansion or be content with the current state, find ways to accept responsibility and acknowledge your own internal conflict between the ambition to grow your business versus the comfort of maintaining the status quo. ?As a founder, although it may be counter to the way we relate to problem-solving, embracing collaboration with top-tier employees is more beneficial than working in isolation. At high levels of leadership, there’s often a tendency to believe that we can figure everything out on our own and that our solutions are inherently correct, leading us to view others as obstacles. When we lose empathy for others, it’s often a sign that we’ve become overly focused on ourselves and neglected self-empathy. The solution begins within us, and then we need to engage others. And, still, not everyone will necessarily see it our way. Being willing to temper our drive and slow down to understand others' viewpoints is within our control and can lead to more comprehensive, fulfilling and beneficial outcomes. This approach will also likely feel more rewarding and lead to greater transformation for you, as a leader.
So glad I said "yes" to spending six weeks on the East Coast this summer. I'm currently working from the deck, while the kids are playing in the pool on this late afternoon, and thinking about a workshop I facilitated in early May (pictured here) about the transformative power of saying "no." By saying "yes" to six weeks on the East Coast, I chose to say "no" to: - seeing my Bay Area clients in person - giving a talk in July for some rising stars in the real estate industry (now scheduled for August) - attending Bay Area summer get-togethers and professional events - doing my usual routines, which means temporarily expending a different kind of mental energy at the moment - relaxed time in my home with the kids without being constricted by the elementary school routine... and more, like having my dog with me Checking in with myself before saying "yes" to my own big idea supported me in feeling confident about my decision. I said "yes" with an awareness of what I was saying "no" to. This time away has already had its challenges and it's still feeling easy, relaxed and without internal conflict. Conversely, by saying "no" to six weeks of summer at home in the Bay Area, I've said "yes" to the bi-coastal summer of my dreams.
To My Bay Area People Pleasers, FoMOholics and Ghosters ?? ... this event is for YOU! THIS SATURDAY, MAY 4th from 1-4pm, I’ll be leading a COMPLIMENTARY IN-PERSON WORKSHOP at Township in beautiful Sausalito on “THE TRANSFORMATIVE POWER OF SAYING NO". ? This is an opportunity to explore setting clear boundaries and being intentional with your yesses. CREATE SPACE ON YOUR CALENDAR AND LIGHTEN YOUR MENTAL LOAD. ? Saying "NO" isn't just about setting boundaries—it's about reclaiming your time, your energy, and your zest for life. ?Uncover the incredible freedom and spaciousness that comes with confidently saying “NO" to the things that don’t align with your values, goals or aspirations. ?Learn how to FILL YOUR DAYS WITH WHAT LIGHTS YOU UP and less of what drags you down, AT WORK AND AT HOME. ? SAY YES TO PRIORITIZING YOUR HAPPINESS and creating a life that's authentically yours! This event is limited to 16 people. RSVP NOW to reserve your spot. (See RSVP LINK IN THE COMMENTS and details on the flyer.)
YOUR BLUEPRINT, YOUR BUILD - LAUNCHES FEB 13TH - TWO SPOTS LEFT! When a client received a promotion at work, her manager-turned-peer had only one piece of advice. “You’re gonna have a whole new relationship with your team now,” he said. Thus, her workplace leadership training was complete. End scene. Pretty open to interpretation, right? My client took this to mean that in order to be an effective leader, SHE had to be a whole new person. She put aside some of her best attributes as a transformational leader and chose a more autocratic style that led to her team distrusting both her and her ideas. When you take on a NEW LEVEL OF LEADERSHIP at work, you often need to modify what you’re doing on the job. The question is, DO YOU NEED TO CHANGE WHO YOU’RE BEING? I’m going to say, no, not really. Whether we’re stepping into a new level of leadership or not, WHO YOU ARE BEING MATTERS. Who you are at your core–your authentic self–is what makes you shine. When you start to stray from your authentic self due to fear, stress or some new leadership persona that just doesn’t fit well, things will start feeling out of alignment inside. You will feel it, and the people around you will feel it, too. WEARING A FACADE AT WORK IS NOT THE WAY. RECONNECT WITH YOUR STRENGTHS AND VALUES THAT YOU BRING TO ALL FACETS OF YOUR LIFE. THAT’S THE FIRST STEP toward understanding who you want to be as a leader. From there, you get to decide whether you lean in more or not. Re-discovering who you are as a leader, and what that means for you in your day-to-day, would be a great project to create in my upcoming professional women’s coaching group. YOUR BLUEPRINT, YOUR BUILD LAUNCHES ON FEBRUARY 13TH. THERE ARE TWO SPOTS LEFT. JOIN US! DM me for more information.
For many of us, “If you build it, he will come” is an aspirational quote about turning our heartfelt dreams into reality. In June of 2020, as a single mother at home with two kids under four and without childcare due to the pandemic, I earned my professional coaching certification. It was grueling and rewarding, and I felt like I had accomplished the impossible. I had warped the space-time continuum. I had moved mountains to make it happen. So, I hung out my shingle… In my experience, you can build it, and they also may not come. After doing the work required to get my coaching certification, with zero parenting breaks other than the girls’ naptime and bedtime, I felt like I had done the work necessary to have a flourishing business. The truth was that my work had only just begun. You can work toward a certification or degree or you can write a book or you can find the courage to pivot in your career. You won’t truly “go the distance” until you share with others what you’re up to in the world. Just like Ray Kinsella (Kevin Costner) in Field of Dreams, building the field is only the first, albeit big, step. When 2021 rolled in, I was exhausted from going it alone for so long. It was then that I reached out to a fantastic coach who shared the idea of the “Cloak of Invisibility” with me. It’s just another term for hiding yourself. Although it felt counterintuitive, I was inspired to move into action (despite my exhaustion) and started sharing about my coaching practice with my community and my professional network. Gradually, my business and I both began to flourish. I moved into action because of an insistent whisper in my ear, “Are you willing to stop hiding under your Cloak of Invisibility? It is time.” We'll be talking about the ways in which we’re hiding our professional selves (and how to stop doing that!) in my upcoming Professional Women's Group. For more information about YOUR BLUEPRINT, YOUR BUILD, drop me a message. We launch on February 13th, and there are THREE spots left!
Perhaps you've heard the term "managing up"? Lots of people get really frustrated when they feel they're doing their manager's work for them, from goal-setting for the team to 1:1 mentoring of colleagues. There's this idea that some work is "above my pay grade." Mental energy is one of our most valuable resources, and we want to be intentional with how use it. Getting overly frustrated with managing up can lead to the depletion of this very precious resource. What if you experimented with shifting your mindset? It's possible that one of the reasons you're in your current position is because you have some strong leadership skills your manager lacks. What if you took your frustrations and complaints about your manager and transformed them into requests? This could be in the form of a well thought out conversation or a proposal for a new way of approaching a team process or project. What if managing up is just a part of your job description and the cost of doing business? No matter what, you get to decide the type of leader you want to be, starting NOW. For more information about YOUR BLUEPRINT, YOUR BUILD, my upcoming Professional Women's Group, drop me a message here or at?[email protected]. We launch on February 13th, and there are THREE spots left!
YOUR BLUEPRINT, YOUR BUILD IS ALMOST FULL! Take your goals to the next level with this powerful professional coaching group designed specifically for women. We launch on Tuesday, February 13th, (3-6 pm Pacific) followed by bi-weekly calls every Wednesday (more specifics below) This is a highly interactive project-based group limited to ten women who are called to make progress on their professional goals. Your Blueprint, Your Build is a supportive space for you to get accurate about the changes you want to make in your professional life and harness your power to move into action! The real power of the group lies within the participants. More than half of the women from my previous group are returning because of the supportive and inspiring community they know will be created. There are THREE spots left! Drop me a message to reserve your spot.