"Brave, Warrior and Fight because cancer is a battle and people with cancer are brave warriors trying to fight this disease. It helps give them to drive to fight when they think of themselves as warriors.
They have an inner strength to fight and many are resilient, overcoming physical, emotional and financial obstacles to survive. They have the determination to live and they survive many things, often they survive cancer.
Grief because of the loss with cancer. Loss of normalcy, income, insurance, time with family, body parts and possible loss of life. There is uncertainty in the prognosis and how treatment will affect them. There is sadness that they may not be around to see their family grow up and go through milestones such as graduation and weddings.
Patients are shocked and overwhelmed by their diagnosis and feel rushed from the time of diagnosis to treatment because it is important to get them into treatment quickly but leaves little time to process and plan.
They are ashamed to ask for help or ashamed because their cancer is due to something they were doing or not doing: not getting screened when they should, smoking, drinking, being overweight, etc.
They worry about the outcome, what will happen to their families if they can’t be the Mom or Dad, if they can’t work, if cancer comes back and if they die. They also worry about and fear pain, nausea and other side effects they may have.
They get frustrated when there are delays, lack of information, trouble getting appointments and answers, etc. They are disappointed when treatment outcomes aren’t what they thought, when they have complications causing hospitalization or a pause in treatment, when cancer comes back, etc.
Cancer is unfair. Sometimes people are just starting their adult lives, their families, retirement, have special trips planned or have other cancers or chronic diseases. Sometimes other family members have cancer at the same time. Sometimes they are the only breadwinner for the family or the only caregiver to a spouse, parent or adult child and now they have cancer and can’t fulfill those duties.
They feel powerless and helpless. Patients in general lose a lot of control when they are hospitalized or there are not a lot of options for treatment. Maybe they did all they could to prevent cancer and it happened anyway.
They feel blessed and grateful to have good medical team, have good results, a job that works with their time off, insurance and to have the support of family, friends, church members, coworkers, …
They are sometimes in denial that they have cancer, that there is no more treatment.
They are hopeful – there is always hope and optimism, especially at the beginning of the journey." - Gwen Spector