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A client wanted to do a life wheel, where we look at all the different aspects of her life—all the various people and things she spends her time and energy on—and whether any are out of alignment with her goals and values. I’ve done this activity with a lot of clients, and this particular one was unusual in a couple of ways. 1.???????The wheel was actually pretty balanced, meaning no one section stood out dramatically more than the others. 2.???????There were more spokes/sections of the wheel than I’ve ever seen before. On the surface, this might look like someone who lives a very active life, is involved in a lot of activities, and carefully allocates her time among them. And those things are all true. I encouraged her to celebrate them. What else is true? She feels continually overwhelmed by all of her responsibilities and frequently frustrated by the lack of progress or impact she’s making in any of them. Something that stood out to me immediately as we were drawing her life wheel, and which I reflected back to her a few times, was the number of “shoulds” that came up. ·?????Shoulds around being a good citizen and community member ·?????Shoulds around taking on extra responsibilities at work, often unasked and unrewarded / uncompensated / unacknowledged ·?????Shoulds around time spent with extended family She was clear on her values, and on the things that bring her joy. But the shoulds kept getting in her way. She was giving equal time and energy to the shoulds—which means, inevitably, that there’s not enough left for the things she truly values and that bring her joy. ?The life wheel was a powerful visual illustration of this. It prompted her to begin the process of examining those shoulds and crafting a plan: to weed out the ones she could stop doing immediately and take steps to hand off or eliminate the others as soon as possible. It’s a process; there’s no instant solution here. But now she has a strategy that will ensure that she’s spending her resources on the things that are most important to her—and that she assesses all future requests and opportunities through a new lens. When’s the last time you looked at your “life wheel”? What are some of the shoulds you’re carrying? What’s getting in your way? ----- ? I help leaders with fast, busy minds realign life + work to create the conditions they need to thrive. And I offer tailored packages to suit fast, busy lives. Ready to get out of your own way? Schedule a free discovery call: Message me or use the scheduling link in my profile. ?

How often do you ask for what you need? A theme’s come up in many conversations recently with clients, colleagues, and friends: 2025 has been off to a slow, weird start. I used to hit the ground running. New job, new home, new year—same concept. I’d make a list of everything I wanted to do and charge through that list as quickly as possible. Not so this year. A lot of us got sick at the end of last year, took a long time to recover. A lot of us are still trying to find ways to deal with the political and societal realities of the next few years, in the US and around the world. A lot of us are currently facing or living with the fallout from devastating natural disasters, ongoing war and inexplicable violence. None of this is new, but it feels somehow heavier this year. Denser. We’ve all been through a lot in the last several years. We’re strong and resourceful and resilient—and, at some point, something has to give. I’m actually feeling really good about this slow start. It’s given me an opportunity to be much more intentional about how I spend my time. I’m prioritizing in a way I never have before. I’m clear about my goals and my values and making decisions that align with both. I’m also getting much better about paying attention to what I need—and asking for or taking it. - Accepting fewer meeting invitations - Adding more buffer time to your calendar - *Not* watching or reading the news - Getting away from your computer and taking a walk - Stopping work when your brain is done for the day - Sleeping in on the weekend - Asking your partner to do the cooking, shopping or cleaning - Getting a babysitter so you can have a night out with friends - Rescheduling the regular 8am meeting to 9am to give yourself some you time - Splurging on something that relaxes you, nourishes you, or brings you joy What do you need? Who do you need to ask for it? Often, the only person we need permission from is … us. How often do you ask for what you need? And how often do you let yourself take it? ?? I serve as a strategic thought partner to women leaders who are wired a little differently. When you’re ready to realign life and work and create the conditions you need to thrive, I’d love to support you. DM me or use the link on my profile to schedule a clarity call. ??

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Research published last week in the “Japanese Journal of Applied Psychology” explores the impact of environmental sensitivity in the workplace. The study found—unsurprisingly—that “individuals scoring higher on sensitivity measures reported experiencing more workplace stress and feelings of alienation. However, they also demonstrated significantly higher levels of empathy compared to their less sensitive counterparts.” The senior researcher noted that what can sometimes be seen as a vulnerability might actually be a valuable asset to organizations. “For organizations, these insights carry significant implications for workplace design and management. Traditional support systems … may fall short if they don’t account for the diverse needs of employees…. Creating more inclusive and supportive environments could improve both employee retention and overall?workplace well-being.” Having spent decades as an employee and a leader who’s highly sensitive to my environment, I’m passionate about raising awareness of this trait (and the gifts & challenges that come with it) and helping people who struggle with it learn how to create the conditions they need to thrive. That’s why I wrote “Perceptive,” and I’m thrilled that early readers have found value in it both for themselves and their organizations. ?? Today—Monday, January 6—is the final day of the fundraising event to get “Perceptive” published. Please consider supporting the campaign today: https://lnkd.in/gvjY4EX5 ?? Looking for help setting yourself, your team members, or your organization up for success? DM me—I’d love to support you.

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I gave AI art another shot. This one had me laughing out loud. It looks like intergalactic gobbledygook to me ?? (Translation of the title in the image:?“Perceptive” Prelaunch Campaign) Anyway, great news: We’ve raised?$5,441?so far—more than halfway there! THANK YOU to everyone who’s preordered copies and/or donated to the campaign. Just?$4,559?to go?by January 3. And if you haven’t yet, now would be a fantastic time??? Since there isn’t yet a physical book to wrap up and give for the holidays, I thought I’d offer an incentive: ?? I’ll send an Amazon gift card to the next few people to preorder these packages or donate at these amounts (if you’d prefer a different e-tailer, let me know): $25 to the next person who supports at the $250 level $50 to the next person who supports at the $500 or $1,000 level $100 to the next person who supports at $1,500-$4,999 $150 to the next person who supports at $5,000 or more ???Visit https://lnkd.in/gvjY4EX5 for options, including custom workshops, virtual talks, and coaching sessions & packages. Want something different? DM me and let's talk! 100% of proceeds go to editing, design, and production of?"Perceptive."?