Purpose Mapping?

Workaholism is the best drug. There. I said it. Well… until it’s not. Remember when you used to jump out of bed, fired up to conquer the world? If it’s been a while, you might notice something I’ve been calling: The Midlife Malaise A malaise is that dreary fog where everything just goes bland and gray. Life loses its savor. Worst of all… you can't get high on work anymore. The dopamine rush of success just doesn't hit like it used to. If you’re tracking with me so far, you're probably trying to cope in one of three ways: The Golden Hamster Wheel: Pushing harder, working longer, chasing faster. Brain chemistry fatigues and it’s harder to maintain the hustle & grind. Golfing Your Way to the Grave: Trading work addiction for toy addiction. Country club, luxury cars, vacation homes, yachts, planes, tropical islands. Hang Gliding into a Hurricane: Three-martini lunches, women, white powder. When work stops giving you that rush, chaos gets its hooks in. Here's what nobody tells you: Midlife is like a second puberty of sorts. Remember how uncomfortable, yet necessary that first one was? Midlife transformation works the same way. Just like a caterpillar has to dissolve before becoming a butterfly, you have to go through dissolution before finding your Mountain of Fulfillment?. The unbridled workaholic identity, always seeking that next fix, has to die for something greater to emerge. BOOK YOUR MIDLIFE CLARITY CALL? -> https://lnkd.in/e_Ysc4NX #purposemapping?#menswork?#menscoaching?#executivecoaching?#purpose?#mission?#midlife?#men?#contribution?#connection

“My wife thinks I’m nuts running around the bedroom while she tries to watch a movie and I try to get in my last 1000 steps… “Ha. She came in the living room with just heeled black boots on earlier to lure me in the bedroom and I was too focused on my steps. I need to rethink my goals.” The beauty of a Wolfpack Sprint? is the structure, accountability & momentum that creates massive breakthroughs in a matter of weeks. Besides that, this man has dropped 3-4 lbs each week of this sprint. For “Harvest” he’s not cooling down, he’s ramping up and adding weight-lifting back into his routine after years of muddling through midlife mediocrity without working out. The best is yet to come, brother!

Week 8 in our 13-week cycle is the first week of ‘Harvest’ (orange weeks). We think of ‘Harvest’ like a cool-down lap after 4 weeks of GROW LIKE HELL!!! These 3 weeks are all about TALLYING & CELEBRATING. Men in our Wolfpack Sprints? still log their daily Habits + Actions to maintain momentum & complete their 10x Milestones (if necessary). In the Hero’s Journey, this is the Apotheosis -- which means “divinization” in the mythic sense …or simply: the highest & best version of something (including you!) "The adventure of the hero represents the moment in his life when he achieved illumination, the nuclear moment when, while still alive, he found and opened the road to the light beyond the dark walls of our living death.” - Joseph Campbell BOOK YOUR MIDLIFE CLARITY CALL? -> https://lnkd.in/e_Ysc4NX #purposemapping?#menswork?#menscoaching?#executivecoaching?#purpose?#mission?#midlife?#men?#contribution?#connection

"I have everything I ever dreamed of... and so much more. But I've never felt emptier, more lost & alone." They say it quietly, almost ashamed. After all, what right do they have to feel this way? It's the dirty little secret of successful midlife men. Because somewhere along the way, you made what's known as the Devil's Bargain: You traded your soul for success. And now you're discovering the harsh reality: Success ≠ Fulfillment. BOOK YOUR MIDLIFE CLARITY CALL? -> https://lnkd.in/e_Ysc4NX #purposemapping?#menswork?#menscoaching?#executivecoaching?#purpose?#mission?#midlife?#men?#contribution?#connection

The Fisher King & The Handless Maiden - Robert A. Johnson "Modern society has achieved material abundance at the cost of our feeling function - our ability to find genuine joy and meaning in life." Johnson was Carl Jung’s youngest student and an American, so he’s very relatable. This ancient tale cuts straight to the heart of what plagues successful midlife men. He delves into 3 primary insights as he recounts the 12th century story: - The Devil's Bargain: How trading feeling for success leaves us wealthy but wounded - The Silver Hands: Why luxury and achievement can't replace authentic connection - The Inner Restoration: Your path back to wholeness lies through caring deeply Johnson brilliantly illustrates why so many men reach Success Mountain? only to find themselves unable to feel true satisfaction. Through these timeless stories, he maps the journey from external achievement to internal fulfillment. This couldn’t be further from the modern self-help genre BS. Johnson retells this 12th century story as a profound reflection of how we lost our way in… And, more importantly, how we can find our way back to what matters most. BOOK YOUR MIDLIFE CLARITY CALL? -> https://lnkd.in/e_Ysc4NX #purposemapping?#menswork?#menscoaching?#executivecoaching?#purpose?#mission?#midlife?#men?#contribution?#connection

Most of my closest bros were once lone wolves. Mavericks, like me. It makes sense in a way, because we cut our own path through the world. And somehow we make it work… often so well, we become isolated by our success. But we’re wired for connection: Men Need Men It’s been almost 6 years since John Alba & I met. Today he was our guest coach in Wolfpack and he shared how far he’s come in the 5 years since he did Purpose Mapping. In the time I’ve known him, he went from frantically chasing money in his business & fighting for love in his relationship… Through the Dark Forest between Mountains, where he shared, “there was about a 6 month period where things were incredibly hard” To these days, having a business that runs without him, creating every day with his woman, and finding himself in a place of deep, enduring fulfillment. He commented, “Purpose Mapping provided me the guard rails to keep me on track so I could clear out the things that weren’t working and I’m amazed at how everything I set out to create 5 years ago is what I’m living now.” The men on the call loved his story of transformation, and the Wolfpack bros benefited deeply from John’s insights about their own stage of the Journey. Why would a man take hours out of his day to show up in service like this? To put it in John’s words… “It’s About The Men” BOOK YOUR MIDLIFE CLARITY CALL? -> https://lnkd.in/e_Ysc4NX #purposemapping?#menswork?#menscoaching?#executivecoaching?#purpose?#mission?#midlife?#men?#contribution?#connection

Week 7 in our 13-week cycle is the completion of “Summer” (yellow weeks). The final GROW LIKE HELL!!! week in our quarterly Sprint is when all the compounding gains are captured. Men in our Wolfpack Sprints? log daily Habits + Actions that build towards their 10x Milestones. Compounding gains are the only way to create 10x results. In the Hero’s Journey cycle, this is the week of The Ordeal. "And where we had thought to find an abomination, we shall find a god; where we had thought to slay another, we shall slay ourselves; where we had thought to travel outward, we shall come to the center of our own existence; where we had thought to be alone, we shall be with all the world.” – Joseph Campbell BOOK YOUR MIDLIFE CLARITY CALL? -> https://lnkd.in/e_Ysc4NX #purposemapping #menswork #menscoaching #executivecoaching #purpose #mission #midlife #men #contribution #connection

Have you reached the point where success just doesn't hit like it used to? You worked so hard to “arrive” at the top of Success Mountain only to find out There’s nothing up here! Sucks, right? Here's the problem... Our evolutionary masculine brains are wired to reward us for the hunt... ...not the feast. That drive & motivation to climb Success Mountain? wasn't about the achievements. How many victories were hollow within days (if not minutes)? Dopamine is about the pursuit itself. The chase. The challenge. We barely noticed the daily grind toward the summit. When we've "made it" – when we've checked all society's boxes – there's nothing left to chase. No goals big enough to spark that fire. That's why successful men often find themselves feeling: - Lost - Bored - Empty - ...and oddly guilty about it all (ever notice that?) Most men get trapped in one of these 3 Midlife Pitfalls: 1. The Golden Hamster Wheel: Making great money, but spinning in place. You stay because... what else is there? 2. Golfing Your Way to the Grave: Maybe exit your business, automate the income. Sounds peaceful. Feels empty. 3. Hang Gliding Into a Hurricane: Creating chaos just to feel alive again. We've seen how that ends. But your brain isn't malfunctioning. It's telling you something critical: Time for a bigger mountain. Not just any mountain... your Mountain of Fulfillment?. BOOK YOUR MIDLIFE CLARITY CALL? -> https://lnkd.in/e_Ysc4NX #purposemapping #menswork #menscoaching #executivecoaching #purpose #mission #midlife #men #contribution #connection

Dopamine Nation - Dr. Anna Lembke "The reason we're all so miserable may be because we're working so hard to avoid being miserable." Dr. Huberman recommended this one and it changed everything about how I view motivation and success. 1. Modern abundance hijacks our reward system 2. Achievement tolerance builds like drug tolerance 3. Recovery requires strategic discomfort, not more rewards Our brains process pleasure and pain like a balance scale. The higher the pleasure, the harder the fall. This insight explains why so many men at the peak of success feel numb to achievement. This book illuminates why pushing harder stops working. Temporary abstinence from success-chasing can actually reset our capacity for genuine fulfillment. This is why we host a 3-night Nature Solo every quarter. Our next one is in Death Valley area the weekend of December 20th. Reply “SOLO” for details. BOOK YOUR MIDLIFE CLARITY CALL? -> https://lnkd.in/e_Ysc4NX #purposemapping #menswork #menscoaching #executivecoaching #purpose #mission #midlife #men #contribution #connection

I worked with a man last year who couldn’t quite figure out “What’s Next?” That happens sometimes. I never guarantee a timeline. You can’t rush gestation of the new man emerging. I only guarantee results -- and we keep working together until I see you through. Sometimes you have to take a step back, away, out… So he took a multi-month sabbatica in Baja. And to his great surprise, he returned with an inspired 75,000 word autobiography. It just flowed out of him. He immediately found an editor who loved it so much he took time out of his very busy personal schedule to shap it into a masterpiece. Will they get published? It doesn’t matter! They’re enjoying the hell out of the ride, and they have an ace up their sleeve… A mutual friend of ours is one of the top literary agents in the country. Surrender will get you everywhere on the Second Mountain. BOOK YOUR MIDLIFE CLARITY CALL? -> https://lnkd.in/e_Ysc4NX #purposemapping?#menswork?#menscoaching?#executivecoaching?#purpose?#mission?#midlife?#men?#contribution?#connection