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One of my dreams is about to come true ?? And I need your help ?? The video says it all, but TLDR; This Saturday, I'm doing my first Ted Talk. ?? Something that honestly, past versions of me didn't believe I deserved. It felt like no matter what I did, so many folks didn't believe in me. But the biggest challenge was actually believing in myself. And if you're going through a thing, trying to reach a big hairy goal, please know that sometimes, stepping up the plate rewards you far more than anything else, whether you're successful or not. ?What do I need your help with? ?? Follow me here Seven Jacobs -- my goal is to help people discover and cultivate the person that they most want to be, to become magnetic and attract the results they most want. And some new things are coming, so if I can help you and your communities, please let me know and stsa tuned! ?? Thank you to those who have believed, and to those that didn't ?? for pushing me to get here. It's been a pleasure, and it's just the beginning ? HUGE thanks to the TEDxHultLondon Franziska Nickenig and team for believing in me and giving me the opportunity to serve the community and spread ideas worth sharing! ??? ??? I think there are some tickets left for THIS SATURDAY so DM or comment and I'll send you the link ??

People can’t be changed by others. They can be helped, but they must decide to change themselves. Ever tried to convince someone to change? To see things differently? To take action they know they need? And yet—they resist. That’s because change can’t be forced. It has to be chosen. You can: ?? Offer guidance. ?? Share perspective. ?? Hold space for their transformation. But at the end of the day… they have to walk through the door. This is why the best leaders don’t push change. They invite it. Because true transformation isn’t about convincing. It’s about creating the space for people to see— That they were ready all along. Who in your life needs less pushing and more space? --- ?? I have applications open for a course that goes through this and MUCH more—helping leaders 10x how they communicate and feel. Applications open through my profile.

I’ve been thinking and talking a lot about confidence recently because of some the stuff I’ve been working on. Naturally, I thought back to my own journey and realised that most of my life, I was terrified. Of, like, everything. Fear ruled me, I was too passive, and I had no confidence of my own. When I was younger, I was super quiet. I had awful social anxiety and would hide (in plain sight). And I was usually bullied for it too—not because I did anything specific, but I guess I made for an “easy target.” TLDR; I used to have ZERO confidence. But honestly, I never took any action either. Always hiding in the corner and such. ?? I know now that confidence isn’t something you just magically; it’s something you earn. We don’t build confidence before taking action. ? The first time I spoke on a stage, my hands were shaking, but I got through it. The next time, they shook less. ? The first time I gave a work presentation, my heart was racing and I stumbled over my words. Now, I’m totally focused on the presentation and don’t worry at all. ? The first time I pitched to a client, I rehearsed for ages and still probably sounded like a nervous wreck. After a few times, I was more comfortable and could even enjoy it. I’m willing to bet you’re similar. Don’t get me wrong—sometimes we can do something a million times and still feel nervous or anxious or stressed. But the point is that by doing the thing, we build PROOF that we can do it. ?? And eventually, we have such a bank of evidence that our body has no choice but to respond differently. That being said, we can still be stuck in unhelpful patterns or negative self-talk that keeps us nervous and unconfident. But that’s a different piece of the puzzle. This puzzle piece is a simple understanding that there is NO SUCH THING as being FULLY “ready.” ? That moment isn’t coming. Do the thing. Speak up, be courageous. Adjust later. ?? Confidence will follow.

With rest, wisdom grows. Without rest, wisdom dies. Fun fact you probably knew: most of our brain’s thoughts are unconscious. HOWEVER, what I think a lot of people miss is that this means most of our growth and processing of thoughts and emotions and learning ALSO happens unconsciously. Have you ever tried to sit there and come to THE conclusion to an issue? Or ideas for something? Sometimes it works, but sometimes we just need to get on with our lives. Then randomly while you’re cooking or taking a shower or something, the answer or an idea will pop into your head. Because your brain is doing the processing for you. You don’t need to “try” to think about it. I’m so TIRED of hustle culture. Not because working hard is “unhealthy” (I’m a big believer in putting in the hours), but because of this fundamental misunderstanding about how we human beings work. Our brain is this incredible beast of a machine working on autopilot for us. Through rest, it finds answers, not just through just do do doing. **Your mind processes best in stillness.** If you’re constantly grinding, forcing, pushing, then you’re not thinking at your best. The most powerful people master **recovery.** You can actually use this to your advantage by directing the brain. Try this out: ask yourself the question you want the answer to, then just go about your day. For example, “What should I write about on Substack tomorrow?” (A cheeky example because I do this at least once a week—Substack link below ??). Ask it to yourself out loud, just like that, then go about your day. You might be surprised that by the time the next day has rolled around, an answer may well have popped up. Give it a go! ____ ?? I have applications open for a course that goes through this and MUCH more—helping leaders 10x how they communicate and feel. Applications open through my profile.

Each of us has a gate around our potential for personal change, and the gate can only be opened from the inside. That’s something I thought when I was younger, and it still feels so true to me. I used to be so afraid of so many things, that I’d lock away my heart. And eventually, I realised it was a cage. Most people wait for something external to change before they act. - The perfect opportunity. - The right mentor. - A sign from the universe. Some people may be here to help you, but no one is coming to save you. No one will open the gate for you. I figured out that just doing the hard thing was better than nothing; indeed, it might have been my only option. And slowly, stuff changes. You must CHOOSE to do it, from the inside. To have the courage to step through. Your next level is just beyond a door in your heart, and you need to turn the handle. --- ?? I have applications open for a course that goes through this and MUCH more—helping leaders 10x how they communicate and feel. Applications open through my profile.

Whenever the room is loud, I can’t be heard. (Something about my voice)? So I tend to keep quiet and listen. And only when it’s the right time will I usually interject. Playing with this over the years, I noticed that when you speak in the right way, all eyes will suddenly be very focused on you. Hot take: Words, slides, credentials, are all overrated. The actual secret weapon is presence. The most *powerful* speaker the one who makes you feel drawn to them. The one who: ?? Owns the space instead of shrinking into it. ?? Speaks with certainty instead of over-explaining. ? Moves with intention instead of filling silence with nervous energy. The goal is NOT to ask ? How do I sound smarter? It’s to figure out ? How do I make them feel the weight of what I’m saying? Speed, emotionality, and the tone and pitch and depth of your voice: that’s Magnetic Presence. And it draws attention. Some more tips in the image ?? #publicspeaking #confidence #leadership #pitching #charisma — ?? I’m looking for more events and content shows to join as a guest. If you or someone you know would like to chat, send me a DM!

Are you seeing reality? Or just your version of it? For the longest time, I thought I saw the world clearly. That my thoughts, my beliefs, my instincts—were all grounded in truth. But then I started paying attention. Every time I believed something was impossible, I found proof. Every time I doubted myself, my brain gave me reasons why I wasn’t good enough. Every time I thought people couldn’t be trusted, I somehow found the evidence to confirm it. And that’s when it hit me: We don’t see the world as it is. We see it as we are. ?? If you believe people can’t be trusted, you’ll find reasons to confirm it. ?? If you believe you’re not capable, your brain will prove you right. ?? If you believe success has to be hard, you’ll make it an uphill battle. I’ve been trying to challenge that. To catch myself when I assume I’m right. To stop letting old beliefs dictate new realities. Some of the most successful people I know don’t just look for answers—they question their own questions. They ask: ?? What am I missing? ?? What if I’m wrong? ?? What’s another way to see this? Because the more you question your own perspective, the more you expand your reality. What’s a belief you’ve recently challenged? Let’s talk. ?? If expanding your perspective is something you’re working on, we go deep into this inside Magnetic Presence. Applications are open—find the details in my profile. ?? #Leadership #SelfAwareness #Growth #Mindset

People Don’t Change. Or Do They? Someone once told me, “People don’t change.” And for a long time, I wasn’t sure if I agreed or not. I’ve seen people stay stuck in the same cycles for years, despite knowing better. I’ve also seen people transform in ways I never imagined. So which is it? What I’ve come to realize is: Change isn’t something you can give someone—it’s something they have to choose. I used to think that if I explained things clearly enough, if I showed them the way, they’d get it. And sometimes, they did. But most of the time? Nothing happened. We’ve all been there. Watching someone struggle, knowing exactly what could help, but realizing they’re just not ready to take that step. It’s frustrating. It’s painful. And if we’re honest, it can make us feel powerless. But here’s the shift that changed everything for me: ?? The best way to help people change? Be the example. You can’t force transformation. You can’t make someone see what they’re not ready to see. But you can live in a way that makes them curious about what’s possible. Because when someone is ready to change, they don’t need convincing. They need to see proof that it’s possible. So instead of focusing on whether other people can change, I started asking myself: Where in my own life am I resisting change? Because if I believe in my ability to grow, I have to believe in theirs too. What do you think? Can people really change? Let’s talk. ?? #Leadership #SelfLeadership #Growth #Transformation

The Trap That Keeps You Stuck (And How to Break It) “Be careful of your thoughts, because your thoughts create your words. Be careful of your words, because you words create your actions. Be careful of your action, because your actions become your habits. Be careful of your habits, because your habits become your character. Be careful of what character you cultivate, because your character creates your destiny.” This is a quote I got from Shaolin Master Shi Heng Yi, and I’ve been thinking about it a lot recently. I’ve also been thinking about Joe Dispenza’s saying, “Your personality creates your personal reality.” I’ve been really wrestling with becoming the person I most want to be, and with the COURAGE to make it happen. For a long time, I thought (unconsciously, mind you—I doubt I would have actively thought this) that change would *just happen* when the timing was right. Like one day, I’d wake up and magically be the person I wanted to be. (Yeah, it sounds stupid to me too) The belief that change comes after something external shifts was still my main operating perspective. “We need more time, more confidence, more proof before we can take action.” But change doesn’t wait for you. You create it. Your thoughts, words, and actions form a cycle that either keeps you stuck—or moves you forward. So my mantra recently has been JUST DO THE THING 5-4-3-2-1 — DO Start anywhere. Shift one piece Everything else will follow. Don’t wait until you feel "ready." Ready is just fear disguised as logic. ?? What’s one small shift you can make today? Drop it below. ?? #Growth #SelfLeadership #Change #Mindset

We’re not the best judges of our own progress. I came across the Dunning-Kruger effect, and it made me pause. ?? When we struggle, we sometimes overestimate ourselves. ?? When we excel, we often underestimate ourselves. Which made me wonder—how often do I mistake confidence for competence? Or doubt for failure? I started asking myself: Am I being honest with myself? Not just about my abilities, but about my decisions, my impact, and the stories I tell myself. So, I started a little challenge: Once a day, I ask myself—"Are you awake yet?" It sounds simple, but every time, it pulls me out of the noise and into the present. So I’m curious—what’s something you’ve questioned about yourself recently? Let’s talk about it. ?? #Leadership #SelfAwareness #Growth #Mindset