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Most of us struggle to self-regulate (even when we’ve learned about it and have ways to) because: It wasn’t modelled around us The adults who raised us didn’t know about the huge need for, and benefits of offering co-regulation and connection to us We didn’t experience thousands of moments of being co-regulated early in life It’s not a habit we picked up early in life We forget We are mostly in an ongoing state of stress so we find it hard to pause and either access co-regulation with another or self-regulate We are disconnected from our bodies so miss how much we need to regulate our emotions and stress. We are all naturally wired to do better from safe co-regulation So if you see posts talking about teaching the SKILL of self-regulation to children feel free to ignore it as self-regulation isn’t that simple Self-regulation feels more doable if a child naturally experiences soooooo much co-regulation from adults who are very emotionally and physically available to them AND from adults who are able to feel OK to be a safe ‘holder’ of a child’s emotions and states of inner chaos or shut down - which isn’t easy I know So you can model your self-regulation around your children - and if you’ve pets or favourite teddies etc they can be invited to ‘take some breaths’ ‘lay on the ground’ or other things Then one day your older child may just use a resource they’ve seen modelled (and felt the benefit from the shift in your energy when you used it around them) BUT they’ll still need co-regulation more than having to rely on self-regulation They just need it to be offered at the ‘right moment’ on their terms - we all do forever. #beliefs #selfbelief #subconsciousmind #trauma #childhoodtrauma #traumainformed #traumarelief #selfworth #selfconfidence #emotions #emotionalhealth #emotionalwellbeing #emotionalhealing #wellness #subconsciousmind #yourlifeyourway #lastingchange #change #freedom #coach #coaching #changemaker #author #trainer

Hitting a rough patch does not undo all the progress you’ve made. Keep moving forward and recognize your strength.

Remember, mental health is a journey, not a sprint.

??#mentalhealth ??#motivation Ready to Let Go? How to Release Your Emotional Baggage Ever feel like you’re carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders? That’s emotional baggage. But here’s the thing—it’s not always a bad thing or a sign of emotional illness. Emotional baggage is part of the human experience. It can come from many sources, like trauma, grief, abuse, illness, mistakes, job loss, or just the general stress of life. In fact, I can relate to many of these areas. But having emotional baggage doesn’t mean you’ll automatically develop depression, anxiety, or another emotional illness. It’s important to be aware of the stressors in our lives and to actively work on releasing this baggage so it doesn’t weigh us down or lead to emotional problems. ?? Four Ways to Decrease Emotional Baggage ?? ? Acknowledge Your Feelings ? Don’t ignore your emotions. Recognize them and give yourself permission to feel them. This is the first step in releasing emotional baggage. ? Practice Forgiveness ? Whether it’s forgiving others or yourself, letting go of grudges and regrets can help lighten your emotional load. ? Seek Support ? Talk to friends, family, or a therapist. Sometimes sharing your feelings can help you see things more clearly and help you let go. ? Focus on Self-Care: ? Take time to care for your mental and physical health. Activities like exercise, meditation, and spending time with loved ones can help you manage stress and reduce emotional baggage. "The greatest step towards a life of simplicity is to learn to let go." - Steve Maraboli Remember, everyone carries some emotional baggage—it’s part of being human. But you have the power to lighten that load and move forward with less weight on your shoulders. By taking small steps to release your emotional baggage, you’ll find more space for joy, peace, and growth. ? Please feel free to share this post?to help spread awareness and support around mental health. You never know who might need this reminder today. ? Follow me for more insights and updates on mental health and wellness! ?? #strength #trauma #wellness #psychiatry (Image Credit: Alf Lokkertsen | The Present Psychologist)

If things aren’t going the way you expected them to, that’s okay. Give yourself permission to start over. ??

How to build resilience? Today, Nathan asks: — “How can I get better at handling life's challenges and setbacks?” — Welcome to Episode 117 of AskMatty! Here’s my answer, Nathan: — I think gratitude is one of the best ingredients for building resilience. So let’s try this: 1.? ? First, take two hours just for yourself. Now, choose one area of your life to focus on, like: →? ? Career →? ? Health →? ? Relationships →? ? … Focusing on one area helps us gain clarity. And keeps things manageable. 2.? ? Now, grab a pen and paper. Write down: →? ? 10 wins you’ve had in that specific area over the past 12 months →? ? 10 losses you’ve had in that specific area over the past 12 months And don’t worry about the size of these wins and losses. Even small ones count. 3.? ? Now, for each win and loss, do this: →? ? Write a Gratitude Statement What do I mean? Simple — just think about what you learned from each experience. Just ask yourself: →? ? What did I learn from this win/loss? For example, let’s say your win is this: →? ? Got a promotion at work Well, your Gratitude Statement might be: →? ? “I’m grateful for that because it showed me that hard work pays off and boosted my confidence” Now, let’s say one of your losses is this: →? ? Missed a big project deadline Your Gratitude Statement might be: →? ? “I’m grateful for that because it taught me how to respect my time and others’.” Got it? Just one Gratitude Statement for each win and loss. Total: 20 Gratitude Statements. 4.? ? Now, after doing that, repeat this exercise on a weekly basis. What do I mean? I mean, every week, set aside some time to reflect on the past 7 days. But instead of writing down 10 wins and 10 losses, you need to… Yeah, you just need to write down: →? ? 1-3 wins from the week →? ? 1-3 losses from the week And for each of them, you need to… Exactly! You need to write a Gratitude Statement. Which means writing down 2-6 Gratitude Statements a week. At the same time, you’ll be collecting 2-6 lessons a week. Not bad, right? :) That’s it. This is how we can cultivate resilience through gratitude. And guess what? Good news: consistency is key. — Alright! Thanks for your question, Nathan. Question of the day: →? ? What do you choose: Resilience, Gratitude, or both? Let me know in the comments :) “Let’s build a more inclusive world by spreading wellbeing globally!” – Matty