Butker vs. JP2, and the Maternal Wall ??
I have read and listened to every take I could find on the Benedictine College Commencement speech - conservative Catholic all the way to secular feminist, and everything in between.
I am glad there has been so much conversation on the topic of women, and our vocations.
But - what happened here? What nerve did a random kicker hit in women?
I believe it is this: that society has pitted motherhood against women. Motherhood in America is often seen as a threat, an obstacle, a cage - and this ‘#maternalwall’ has been studied by Harvard scholars for over 2 decades.
This is the real lie that women face, and unfortunately, in his attempt to address it, Butker largely reinforced this binary view of women's vocations - that embracing motherhood requires abandoning yourself - your gifts, your dreams, and your focus on anything other than being a "homemaker."
I can hear the defenses now - "But that's not what he said!"
Technically, no, that's not exactly what he said. But it is what women heard, perhaps because it’s the world we navigate everyday.
Don't believe me? Just look at what the founders of theSkimm, a massively popular millennial news brand, hooked onto in their response to Butker.
They spoke with confidence that #motherhood is the biggest threat to modern women’s growth, and therefore reinforced that the required ticket to women's participation in society is preventing it: "birth control is... statistically the single most important factor in garnering women financial independence and a role in public life," they said, in a video that has over 40,000 likes on Instagram.
JP2, like theSkimm founders, was concerned about women's participation in public life.
But unlike Butker, JP2 called on the #CatholicChurch to take action, saying "there is an urgent need to achieve real equality in every area: equal pay for equal work, protection for working mothers, fairness in career advancements, equality of spouses with regard to family rights and the recognition of everything that is part of the rights and duties of citizens in a democratic State."
He gives us a vision of the world where motherhood is not fundamentally pitted against women; a vision of #equality - "equality in every area” of society.
I think the founders of theSkimm would support that wholeheartedly, if they had heard it.
It seems this is where the Catholic Church has failed to witness fully to this truth - yet.
Society, and women themselves, are crying out for affirmation of this vision - but when they look to Catholics and Catholic Institutions, do they see and hear it lived out?
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