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Tomorrow, my feed will be filled with ???? military photos from my family, friends, and fellow service members, and it's always fun to see! Growing up in the military and still serving today, it’s special to share in this brotherhood and sisterhood. ???? As we celebrate Veterans Day tomorrow, I want to say “Thank you” to my dad for his 30 years of service in the Air Force and for leading the way for me to follow in his footsteps. And thank you to all those who have served – your dedication and sacrifices are appreciated. ?? For those less familiar with military observances, here’s a quick guide to the differences between Veterans Day, Memorial Day, and Armed Forces Day, plus some etiquette tips for showing appreciation: ? Veterans Day (Nov 11) – Honoring everyone who has served in the U.S. Armed Forces, past and present. It’s a perfect time to say, “Thank you for your service.” ?? ?? Memorial Day (last Monday in May) – A day of remembrance for those who gave their lives in service. You might say, “We remember and honor their sacrifice” to reflect the day’s somber purpose. ??? ?? Armed Forces Day (third Saturday in May) – Honoring those currently serving. A simple “Thank you for serving” is always appreciated! ?? And a note for my fellow service members: If someone thanks us on the “wrong” day, let’s just say “Thank you.” ?? Most people mean well, even if they don’t know the differences. Let’s keep the focus on gratitude and connection! ???? #VeteransDay #MemorialDay #ArmedForcesDay #HonorOurHeroes #Gratitude #MilitaryEtiquette #ElevatingEtiquette www.ElevatingEtiquette.com

This week's "tip" is a quote. You may have heard it before, but it's worth repeating and hearing again. Lao Tzu’s timeless wisdom reminds us: Watch your thoughts; they become your words. Watch your words; they become your actions. Watch your actions; they become your habits. Watch your habits; they become your character Margaret Thatcher often echoed this, highlighting the importance of cultivating respectful thoughts. In etiquette, respect and awareness begin with mindful thinking—setting the tone for respectful words and actions. By starting with positive thoughts, we build habits that reflect true character and uphold the principles of etiquette in our daily interactions. What we think, we become. If you're interested, watch this short clip from "The Iron Lady" where she uses this quote: https://lnkd.in/grqQDTHG

Guiding senior leaders during high-profile events—specifically those who will be on stage or speaking—requires a careful balance of respect and readiness, rooted in the fundamental principles of etiquette: awareness and respect. Recently, while supporting high-level dignitaries at a formal ceremony, I made it a priority to allow them to direct the interaction, which enabled me, as their advisor, to provide focused guidance when necessary. I often begin with a straightforward question, such as, "Sir/Ma’am, would you like me to review the sequence or do you have any questions about the event?" This approach empowers them to maintain control and prevents you from overwhelming them with excessive information. By allowing their needs to dictate the level of detail I share, I ensure my advisement remains clear and concise. This respect for their time and focus enhances communication, ensuring they receive exactly what they need while on stage, ultimately supporting their priorities and fostering effective, respectful interactions. www.ElevatingEtiquette.com #EventEtiquette #DignitaryAdvisorTips #DignitaryEtiquette

?? Halloween Etiquette Tip ?? Halloween is one of my favorite times of year, but with candy bowls and festive drinks everywhere, it's important to be mindful of others. Some people may be abstaining from candy and alcoholic beverages for health, personal or religious reasons. So, if you're offering treats or drinks, don't push. A kind offer is great, but respect a polite "no, thank you." And for those turning down the indulgence, no explanation is required. A simple "no, thank you" is enough. This Halloween, let's celebrate with respect, making it enjoyable for everyone! Have you ever had a Halloween where someone wouldn't take “no” for an answer? ?? Share your “horror story” below and let’s learn from each other’s experiences! ??

Gratitude is the gift that keeps on giving….

Weekly Etiquette Tip: Don't Steal the Bread Plate! Ever had your bread plate taken by mistake at a formal event? It happened to me just this month... Someone unintentionally swiped my bread plate at a formal event. What did I do? I discreetly used an empty seat’s plate that was on my right hand side (since no one was attending) and carried on. How did I know nobody was taking that seat? I was the event organizer! But remember, if you’re not the organizer or don’t have inside scoop, it’s best to ask a server for a new plate or, if available, use your salad plate. If someone takes your bread plate or glass, the key is to handle it with grace and respect for others. Stay aware of the situation and those around you—don’t embarrass anyone, and quietly adjust or ask for assistance. Etiquette is all about respecting the people and the environment you’re in. Want to learn more about proper dining etiquette and how to know which plate is yours? Reach out to me for a personalized dining tutorial at www.ElevatingEtiquette.com

Allergies vs. Dietary Preferences: Let’s Clear Things Up! When you’re asked if you have any allergies in an event invitation, they mean allergies—like "I break out in hives from peanuts," not "Mushrooms and I just don’t vibe." Now, imagine if a kitchen had to cater to every preference for a large event… We’d still be waiting for dinner next week! At a recent event I planned, out of 200 guests, 15 sent in preferences instead of actual allergies. Let’s keep it real, folks! Be mindful of what you’re asking when you R.s.v.p.: Allergy: “Peanuts will put me in the ER.” Preference: “Tomatoes? I’m just not a fan.” And yes, true story: I once had to clear an entire aircraft (a large aircraft) of snacks because someone with a nut allergy forgot to tell me about their allergy before they arrived. Snacks for 50+ people, gone in a flash—and a flight delay to boot! Let’s make it easier on everyone and avoid the drama. So next time you R.s.v.p., think of the event team, the kitchen, and everyone’s sanity. And if you really are allergic, let us know—we’ve got your back! #EventEtiquette #RSVPLikeAPro #NoTomatoDrama #AllergiesOnlyPlease #PlanningWithLove #KeepItSimple #diningetiquette www.ElevatingEtiquette.com

R.s.v.p. Matters! R.s.v.p. Matters: The Importance of Timely Responses R.s.v.p.s aren’t just a formality; they reflect respect and awareness. When you respond promptly, especially for formal dinners with 200+ guests, it helps everything run smoothly. Late or incomplete R.s.v.p.s—and unexpected guests—create ripple effects that disrupt not just the kitchen and seating arrangements but also the host and other guests. It’s more of a disruption than anyone realizes, often leading to unexpected costs and stress. While it’s rarely done with ill intent, people often don’t realize how much delayed responses impact the event as a whole. This week alone, I spent countless hours following up on R.s.v.p.s that could’ve been easily submitted on time. Ultimately, it all comes down to respect—for the organizer, the host, and everyone attending. So, when you receive an invitation, please R.s.v.p. as soon as possible or by the due date. Your timely response ensures a great experience for all! #EventEtiquette #RSVP www.ElevatingEtiquette.com

The Biggest Mistake a Proffer Can Make? ?? It’s saying, "I’ve got it, no problem!" without asking questions or preparing. When it’s time to present, they often freeze like a deer in headlights. When you're "on stage," it's too late for help. ?? So, how do you avoid this? ?? Read the script. ?? Practice. ?? Ask questions. ?? Organize your gifts and presentations. ?? Be ready to adjust on the fly. ?? Anticipate potential challenges. Preparation is not just good practice—it’s essential etiquette and protocol. It allows the focus to be on the event and the recipients, not on awkward mistakes. Respect, awareness, and professionalism are the foundation of effective proffering. #BusinessEtiquette #Protocol #Preparation #Professionalism #Leadership #EventPlanning #Respect #PresentationSkills www.ElevatingEtiquette.com

The Art of Being Unseen: A Lesson for Proffers and Event Professionals Good event planning is all about knowing when to be in the spotlight and when to step back into the shadows.? ?A skilled proffer knows how to guide an event with grace, without ever stealing the show. Just like the audiovisual team ensures flawless sound without being heard themselves, the proffer makes sure everything runs smoothly – with a quiet presence that enhances the experience. Their movements are purposeful, their demeanor professional, and when mistakes happen (as they inevitably do), they handle it with such composure that no one ever notices. The best proffers know when to appear, when to disappear, and always walk with class.?They control the flow without taking over, and that’s what makes an event truly unforgettable. #EventPlanning?#ProfferTips?#Professionalism?#GraceUnderPressure?#EventEtiquette?#leadershipinaction www.ElevatingEtiquette.com